Can they take my kids away if my husband has anger issues?

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First things first my husband has never hurt me And the most he&rsquo;s ever done to my kids a squeeze them. No bruises no broken bones, we just got frustrated that they wouldn&rsquo;t stop crying and squeezed them. His main issue is that he bottles of his anger until he explodes and hurts him self.Like you punch a door hinge or himself. My last straw was when he hurt himself in front of our daughter. She&rsquo;s 1 1/2! I don&rsquo;t want him traumatizing her!  Then he&rsquo;ll get depressed and start saying we would be better off without him. It&rsquo;s just not true! Our kids love him so much I love him. He&rsquo;s sweet, kind, fun, loving. 

So my question: he doesn&rsquo;t want to go to therapy because he&rsquo;s afraid they&rsquo;ll take the kids away from us because he squeezed&rdquo;hurting&rdquo; them. Please, I don&rsquo;t want my kids taken away from me but I can&rsquo;t do it anymore

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I am going to make a guess at what you didn't say. "HE DRINKS ALCOHOL" and that's most likely your problem. I am guessing your with some type of alcoholic. This is a serious mistake and now your going pay for this mistake for the rest of your life. You should have have married the nice guy who doesn't drink. You father is probably also an alcoholic and this is why you were attracted to your husband. Self awareness baby. Not all men are bad, just the ones in your life. There's nothing you can do to change him, people don't change. Your the author of your own misery, enjoy the book.

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He's "sweet kind fun and loving" until he isn't, until he squeezes them, until he explodes and punches walls, until he gets depressed and starts talking suicide.  Then he's just not so sweet, kind, fun, and loving.

Finding excuses for a man like that makes you an enabler.  He's putting his hands on the kid in anger woman!  The next step is shaking or slapping.  Shaking can break a neck and/or cause brain damage.

Your first priority is your kid NOT your husband!  You go to a lawyer and discuss this and talk restraining order and no visitation unless he completes anger management training.  You get counseling and that along with a restraining order puts you in front as the responsible parent
in the eyes of the court.  Doing nothing and finding excuses for him puts you in the same category as him irresponsible and without care for the safety of your kid.  Your choice.

Can they take my kids away if my husband has anger issues?

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