3 years ago I went out with my best friend (Val). We never told anyone (he wanted to keep it a secret) and we stayed together 3 months before he broke my heart.
We still managed to stay best friends to this day though and we spend lots of time together.
My new boyfriend (Mat) and I have been together for 4 months and i love him more than anything, the thing is i haven't told him that my best friend and i used to be in love.
I'm afraid it will make Mat uncomfortable around Val. And like it was a secret maybe there is no need for him to ever know.
But at the same time i don't want to lie to him. So far he doesn't have a doubt about my friendship, and as far as i can tell he has assumed that that was all it has ever been. On top of that two months after i started dating Mat, Val confessed that he still had feelings for me and would be with me again if i didn't have someone. Luckely my love for Mat was stronger and i refused to even consider Val's offer. I'm very torn and my friends have given me different advice so i don't know what to do. Mat is fagile and has been hurt many time my other girls who have treated him badly.
Mat and Val get along pretty well, quite well surprisingly, and Val has accepted with respect my decision to be with Mat. but that just leaves the question, should i tell Mat about all this? Thanks for any advice to can give me!
Should I tell my boyfriend about my past relationship with my best friend?
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- 3+ months ago by tyagirl
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IN my opinion i think you should tell Mat about it be honest with him so you can two have a clean sloth in your relationship but give emphasis that anything about you ang Val was long way over and you are just friends if you think that telling him that Val wants you back again but you choose him over the other then tell him