Why they even cheat in the first place if they love their spouse so much? Isn't it much easier to be faithful than keeping yourself from getting caught for cheating?
I really need to know why? They said they love you but still cheat on you. You love them so much but it kills you to think that they'be been with someone else sharing laughter and having inside jokes. You want to forgive them but the thought of they forget you when they with someone made you crazy.
What would you do, you still love them with all your heart but it also hurt you a lot for thinking of it.
Why do people cheats and if got caught they regret. should they be pardon?
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Whose fault is it for acting adultery? Who is to be blame, you or your partner?
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Are there any acceptable reasons for them to act that way? Reasons that say it is ok to cheat.
What if you always forget simple things, I mean always such as misplaced keys or forget to bring shades to picnic or taking too much time to get ready and lots of small mishap habits. would that started the affair? Would this means it's your own fault? What if they were sweet to you with all this, no signs at all.
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It would take some one far greater then i to answer your question, I will say that love is difficult (like you didn't know right). Why people cheat is i believe because they can, it gives them a rush (like taking drugs). 9 times out of 10 of the other spouse's have nothing to do with it. I'm not making an excuse, but we live in a fast pace world with a lot of lonely people in it. Other people often want what they can't have (human nature), but I believe love can conqure all, I pray that if you can find it in your heart to forgive it can be repaired. ( Best of luck )...............P.S. are there any children in this union ?
So chevey, you're saying that they want the feeling of excitement of being in danger and taking risk? Or the feeling the first time you fall for someone? Feeling wanted from someone new? Or like having new shoes?
:( Owh that's bull.. this would also mean that they lost interest with the old one.
Who or what give them the right to play with someone else's feelings. Why don't they admit and leave if
So chevey, you're saying that they want the feeling of excitement of being in danger and taking risk? Or the feeling the first time you fall for someone? Feeling wanted from someone new? Or like having new shoes?
:( Owh that's bull.. this would also mean that they lost interest with the old one.
Who or what give them the right to play with someone else's feelings. Why don't they admit and separate peacefully than hurting the one they used to like to be together with. Why must they lie and hurt lots of people that invovle?
I really hope it was that easy. It's really hurt. Everyday is a challenge for me to get up and realised that it is really happening to me. I always pray that I have the strength to face this.. I want my old life back where we are all happily in love..
Could I get that back? It may not be the same anymore. I might think that the third person is better than me in anything.. :(
I agree with Chevey. I also believe most of the time they regret being caught NOT regret cheating. I can only speak for myself but I could not trust again.
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I know that being cheated on is unspeakable , knowing that some one you love is loving some one else. Lets face it it a hurting thing, that could linger and simmer for years to come. ( if you decide to stay together )........... But i have heard of stranger things happening.
I am 17 and my mother has currently separated from my stepfather (well I guess ex –stepfather now) because of a whole lot of reasons which I don’t think should be broadcasted on the internet. But one of those reasons does somewhat relate to this question. All the struggles in my life (which I can actually say have not happened to most people my age) have opened up my eyes to see it from the other’s perspective. I have realized that as much as we don’t like to admit it we are all animals, we naturally want things that society has labeled taboo. Western ethics and the social customs and expectations that surround our lives originate from the Judaic Christian ethical teachings. Unfortunately, these rules of how to live pure and ‘perfectly’ actually oppose the natural cravings all humans have and are often labeled as sinful. Don’t get me wrong I’m NOT justifying sin as being innocent; I feel quite the opposite actually… I despise people who hurt others and what he has done, but I do understand why he did it. I don’t believe that all people are made to comfortably follow the idea of monogamy. I myself know that I would struggle being committed to only one person and not feel the tempting lust of another. At the same time I am a strong believer in fidelity and would never cheat, unless it was something agreed upon by both parties involved. It is a different way of living but a foundation I believe to be trustworthy. This is just my view on the world; you can do what you want with it. As for your feelings towards your partner and the actions you take … that is solely up to you and him. Every relationship has their own rules and requirements, I believe if the partner breaks those rules then punishment is required in some fashion. My advice is to think about what you do first and consider everyone involved not just your immediate family. Best wishes and I support you through this!
Would you pardon someone who cheated on you ?
Yes there is.. a child, still very small..
If this happens to you chevey, what would you do? Would you forgive and forget? Or you make an agreement or something.