Was told to pee in a cup to see how my UTI was doing, finished and as she came in said good girl to me. That was shocking and disturbing and made me feel uncomfortable.I mentioned how it made me feel though I don't remember my exact words as I was just speaking level and calm and as polite and respectful as I could..I was instantly given a look and she just seemed frozen and asked me if that bothered me and then told me how it was my dirty perception in my head and not her intentions and I didn't say she had bad intentions because I hear strange things form her all the time and this time I said something out of my nature of thinking in my head me saying something is normal or okay. I told her how it didn't make any sense to me because being called a good girl I only know people say it for pets or to young girls...she just said what she said was normal and to ask anyone. I felt the same for some reason but don't know why she said she wouldn't say it to me ever again but I felt disrespected and felt as if I had said something wrong and I don't know why. I don't know why its normal to be told good girl and why it isn't normal to voice my feelings on how it made me feel.
Answers (2)
Is peeing in a cup normal? I found the experience altogether unsettling. Whether words of praise would abate that, I know not, but prolly wouldn't be inclined to believe a professional has the intent to make it weirder than it is.
Curiously, the slang phrase "attagirl" doesn't seem to be associated with canines or children, despite being a portmanteau or contraction of the same.
Though I suppose a simple apology on her behalf might have sufficed, not all people possess the same selection of manners.
If you don't mind me saying, you're overthinking it. At least it's reminiscent of the kind of pattern I oft catch myself lapsing into.
Okay, if you all say so...something just seems wrong to me...I wish I knew what
Truth be told I don't over think things like that I only feel...
atta girl? no I said good girl...like when someone says that to their pet dog or a young child like I said before...good boy...you know? good girl? it didn't sound right to me when I heard it...but I guess thats a small drop in the pool of other things I notice that I'm not allowed to talk about or ask since asking questions isn't considered normal respectful behavior in my house hold...
Well, a feeling tends to be evanescent by nature, I'd say, like disgust whilst passing by a foul odour; what I deem the thinking part is dwelling on the event, recalling the details, analysing them in depth, seeking justification & reasoning - all involuntarily.
Do not hesitate to voice your thoughts here, or at least with me. Your parents have the responsibility of guidance, support and cultivation, but open communication might not always come easy. That's what close friends are for, discovery from similar grounds, free of judgement.
Yes, I'm aware of the difference in usage. Have you considered the possibility she just hadn't the same experience with the phrase? Mayhap not gauging the frequency of each case, or biased interpretation? Before google & casual research took over, slang could be passed around without any double check for convention, for example.
I guess its normal to here someone saying good girl to someone in this world more so then I originally thought...this concerns me deeply but I guess all I can do is let others know this if it is possible.