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I don’t know how to cheer my boyfriend up!
I want to help him so bad but instead of helping him I got mad over him because of his attitude- like saying mean and negative things about himself.
I feel like my boyfriend is suffering from depression and I really wanted to help but I dont know when and how...
And oh, please do respond thanks! ‘ㅅ’
Positivity, endless patience, companionship, listening. You could, or should try to see if there's any particular cause for agitation, but that's not always the case. Sometimes, even most days, just gotta acknowledge it's not all peaches and cream and attaining direct control is an illusion.
I'd say it's honestly difficult to know whether or not it's just a passing phase or if it's actual depression. I think the easiest way to go about it is to try and confront the root of the issue and go at lengths to remove the root.
For instance, I feel like a bad person. Why? Because my ex would always call me a bad person, and I took that personally. Since I was able to find the root of my sadness I was able to cut it off through meditation and patience.
Obviously, my situation is a lot tamer compared to your boyfriends, but the philosophy of it still stands true.
Another thing, guys don't like to talk about their feelings, especially when we're sad. As kids we never learnt how to express them, so asking him the direct question of 'why do you feel that way' will result in a not astounding 'I don't know' from him. I guess try and be a bit sneaky about trying to find the source of the problem, and then once that happens cut off the source, and it will stop feeding his inner demon.
Thank you Faux Pas, you're not so bad yourself. <3
Hi travis, you're not a bad person. : )