Recently I lost some really important people to me all at once. And I've tried counseling and therapy. But nothing works. And I don't want to completely forget about them. But I also don't think it's normal to cry every time I hear one of their favorite songs. I just don't know what to do because everyone says " Just get over it" and " it will be okay soon". But that doesn't really help.
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i hope this helps i can't imagine how it happened but i have lost people very close to me before people i've loved and cherished , and the last thing anyone should say is "get over it" the truth is it will hurt for awhile maybe even longer than you care for it too and that's ok it's ok to grieve and as someone who's been through something similar and made it through the other side. i can tell you it will get better someday, you wont have to completely forget them. the pain will go away eventually slowly but surely and yes when you think back to the good times you may cry but that's ok, crying is a good thing and as for the therapy and counseling i know it may not seem like it's working but eventually it may bear some fruit, i'm sorry for what happened and i hope you can find some comfort in my words. Te Dominus teneat et protegat in amplexu suo.
No the memories we shared were times i cherished even though i eventually started to heal i always kept them close to my heart even if i wasn't near theirs not for them but for me so i could remember the times we were happy and the love we shared and even though it did hurt sometimes to remember, i never worried about forgetting them my advice Cherish the good memories, remember the unfortunate whether good or bad memories are our greatest gifts and our greatest teachers
If none of that works, Trying to go to park or even their favorite park and think about them, sitting next to you, and hugging you and saying they will always be with you. Try to have a fresh start. They will alway stay in your memories but don't let them become your pain. I know that they will always love you and you will love them too. try to let it go but it be tough to let it go but you have to be ready to go because if you don't, it will become your pain always. I have lost someone before but I got over it because I know that they will always love me and protect me and always be in my heart. Try to think about that way too. Don't be sad always, try to spend with your family, your friends to have fun so you have to start fresh start with your happy family and friends. It will probably hurt your family to see you sad always, don't make them feel sad for you, make then happy that you let it go.
Hope this works
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Did you ever feel like you were gonna forget everything about them?