Child-parent help needed?

Hi. Have you tried to tell her how you feel? I don't blame you for not wanting to go....however, if she has already spent money on travel expenses that include you, it may be that much harder to get out of it. Also, where would you stay if you didn't go? Most parents don't like to leave teens home for too long unattended. She may worry about you. If you have a relative to stay with, perhaps it could work out. But....What will your Christmas be like with out your family? For me, being with my family is the most important part of the holiday, where ever we are. Do you think your mom may feel sad because she really wants the family to be together, and you not being there may feel like a big piece is missing? You may only be living at home for a few more years, and then you'll have the rest of your life to do things separately. Please keep in mind that your mother probably loves you very much and perhaps planned this trip to get away from the hustle and bustle of everyday life to spend some special time together. Might you consider making this sacrifice for her? Please keep in mind that your mother may react in anger if you deny her this request, but her true feelings may be extreme sadness. Many, I dare say most, families do not or can not take the time, or have the money to plan such a trip as a family. I would ask you to please consider cherishing this.....seeing it as a gift. Time that you can be close with your family. You may look back at this time and be so happy to have those memories. I suggest you pack some very warm clothes and try to stay by the fireplace (assuming there is one) and do this as a gift to your mom. Think of all your mom has done for you, and how you are going to need her in your future. You are old enough now to make it a two way street, to start doing for her. That's how families work. We put each other first, and make sacrifices, to show our love. Good luck to you. I hope you have a Merry Christmas, no matter how it turns out.