Picture this scenario. When having a conversation with someone , I am always able to respond , give my opinion , to some topic that person brought up , in the form of a few sentences. Then I go quiet. Its like having a conversation with a person for 1 min. I am never able to think of something , to continue a dialog. The same thing happens , when I initiate a conversation. I am able to ask the basic questions such as , how are you , what do u do for a living etc. Then I go quiet. I feels like my brain goes blank during conversations. Am I really that stupid? Is there something wrong with me? I do not think it is social anxiety , since I can easily initiate a conversation , but only in the form of the same basic questions. Some people can have conversations for hours , and I am not able to have them for even 5 min. I have to wait for people to bring up a topic of conversation before I am able to respond , and even then I cant think of enough things to respond with. Personally , I think some 8 year old kid can have a better conversation than I can.
Conversation Problems?
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- 3+ months ago by GehardPious
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- person, picture, conversation, always, problem, opinion
Answers (6)
Well, if it makes u feel any better about yourself, you're not the only one in that boat...
Although I don't really think anything is wrong with me...The problem with me is when I'm alone,i always have much more to say than in front of any other person..
And i don't think anything is wrong with u, U might just have keep practicing with your reflection in the mirror before going to someplace where a situation like that might arise, at least for a while.
Goodluck!
Oh my god. I have the exact same problem as yours. Two things are for sure, you are not stupid and there is nothing wrong with you. The convo does not last long because you genuinely have nothing to talk about. Majority of people will advise you to start talking starting with the weather and blah blah blah but i think you dont need to do that. Just stay quiet. Wait till something comes to your mind or simply wait until your partner speaks. Or if you cant stand the quietness just talk about yourself. Like 'oh i am so hungry, what about you?'
Your not stupid, maybe you need to find a solution. Have you tried thinking random thoughts and then converting them into comments, suggestions, or questions?
For example:
Person 1: Hello how are you?
Person 2:Good. You?
Person 1:Fine.
Person 2: *thinks sausages* Hey what's your favorite food?
Person 1: Umm... Pizza!
Person 2 okay.. *thinks presents* I have a birthday party in December, how about you?
Person 1: July.
Person 2: *thinks video games* Hey wanna come to my house to play video games?
Person 1: sure!