There's this awesome girl I met over the summer who I really hit it off with. We talked every day over the phone till like 2-3 am. She wrote me a letter from a summer camp where she couldn't take her phone. After a bit she told me that her friend really liked me. I told her that might be a problem bc I liked her. We agreed to not date as that would hurt our friend who really liked me. Around a week or two later, I go on a date with the friend, but it doesn't go anywhere. Around 2 weeks later, like an idiot, I ask the girl I'm legit into out. This time, it's a straight up no. I move on and we stay friends but don't talk half the amount we did. Now I see her yesterday and am just like "Crap I'm not over her." What do I do?
There is nothing idiotic about trying. 90% of life is made up of bluffing with confidence; everybody wants results, nobody wants to do the work. And sometimes that's all you need. That said, you are neck deep in friendzone here. At the peak of your mutual interest, she claimed to prefer not to risk hurting her friend's feelings (of infatuation) than to commit to you in any way (I say claim since it's often difficult determining women's true motivations). You're better off fighting for a less lost cause.
I wonder, did she approach you initially or the other way around? She might have been gunning for breaking the ice for her friend longer than when she brought it up.