My boyfriend and I have had our ups and downs. I have a small temper, but I'm just a girl. We had a fun night drinking together at his house, he fell asleep on his couch and I went upstairs to wait for him, but I read his text messages... which i usually never do. I found a text to a random girl that said "your a babe" at 3 in the morning, and he was most likely drunk. I was really hurt by it, I never would do that to him, when I'm drunk I'm more conscious about my actions. But being drunk that night i was really upset and went to wake him up. I asked him "who was the babe, who was that, why would you do that" he wouldn't even wake up when I was talking to him, he had to go to bed anyways so i had to wake him up. But i was so angry I took his phone and slammed it on his chest. like a punch, Not too hard, enough to where he could feel it, but I don't hurt him. He was furious and slammed me down to the floor, squeezed my arms and hit me a lot, punching me. i kicked him for defense but he kept hitting me. At this point i was in shock because he was being so violent, it continued in his room he grabbed my face and slammed my body against the wall, when he did that he hurt my eye pretty badly, the contact fell out and my eyelid is bruised. I ran to my car to cry but couldn't drive because i was drunk. But he came out and was demanding me to get out of the car, threatening me and left dents in it from him punching it. I got out and went to bed with him. But slept no where near him, on the opposite side of the bed. I cried myself to sleep as he was telling me to shut up because i was being loud. and its my fault for hitting him first. He thinks I'm hypocritical because i hit him first. But when i hit him its like a girl. he hits me like a man, harder, and a lot more. I know its my fault for starting it, but Im just so hurt from that text. My eye, both arms and back are bruised. I left early in the morning the next day. He called 2 hours later not remembering anything. He doesn't understand what happened. and Im just appalled. I do feel like a hypocrite because i did hit him, but was it okay for him to go this far? He came over even though i told him not to, saying he was embarrassed doing this to me, he felt like he was set up bc i hit him while he was sleeping, he was apologizing to me. and its just so hard, i don't know what to do. He was drunk and vulnerable, but he totally crossed the line because I'm here with big bruises on both arms, and a bruised eye lid. We've had hitting problems before, a long time ago though. he tells me if i don't want to get hit back, i shouldn't hit him. but he hurts me so much more, i don't hit him back after, its not a fist fight or anything. Things just got out of control with him. I don't know if i should forgive him because he was drunk and i started it, or if this is really a problem. please help me. should i accept his apology, was everything really my fault, Its so hard for me to get rid of him, because we've been together for so long, did he cross the line?
NO Man should EVER hit a woman for ANY reason. To justify it by saying you hit me first is ABSURD. I seen woman get hit by men on several occasions, and I've stepped in everytime, and have beat the little bitches ass on more than one occasion. Typically a man that would sink low enough to hit a woman is a weak little man with little to no self respect. Cowards.
Well well well. All is well. Both of you did wrong with each others.
You became hurt by SMS first. But you did not discuss with him. It was your fault. You hurt him when he was asleep. It was your fault also.
But what your boy friend did that was horrible.
If you have love for him, you can forgive him.
Otherwise go to police, report these & teach him how to behave with a lady like you.
You shouldn't have hit him, but he did throw you and slam you, damaging your eyelid. You should call a lifeline, break up with him, and you should vow to yourself never to hit anybody again. Both of you did bad, but he was worse. He slammed you off the couch, knocking you. Go to www.promentors.weebly.com and don't hit anybody again. Don't forgive him; break up and get your eyelid checked. I can't believe you, you did wrong, but he did something more wrong! Downright evil was he, a bit bad you were.
Neither of you should do what you did and you should both feel sorry. You should call doctors, get help, call police, and go to www.promentors.weebly.com! I'm so sorry!
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This is properly old but
Don't hit male female if you hit someone there likely to feel threatened and fight back if I was sleeping and someone hit me id likely get up and fight for my life half asleep but I'm not a morning person if you feel like the relationship is at a point were you feel bullying is taking place leave I was in a relationship and when we got drunk she use to attack me out of nowhere over something small so we stopped drinking and were together for 7 years so don't think fighting means you need to break up just don't hit
Uh you didn't hit him, you slammed his phone in his chest.
There's a difference. You are wrong, for doing so, yes!
But come on...he certainly didn't need to hurt you like that!
It's one thing for him to hit/push you back IF you were actively hitting him to get away but that's not the case here.
He kicked your ass because you caught him talking with another female (he heard you asking but didn't know what to say...so...he ignored you...UNTIL...)
Listen... If he respected you in the first place...he wouldn't be texting other females.
Well, Unless of course you are okay with him talking to other ladies and kicking your ass?
*He should be ashamed of himself claiming he didn't know what he did...he knows you "hit" first...he knows he was "defending" himself. He also tried saying he was set up...don't you see what he's doing?*
He is guilty and knows he's a bitch for it :P He's trying like hell to justify his actions. Don't expect him to man-up about it. He obviously has no respect for himself let alone you...again...my advice is...leave him!
Go,pack your things and LEAVE! I'm not a female but i would never do that to my lover,even if intoxicated i would never hit a women, no matter what.So leave,call the police & report abuse so he can't come after you,then make sure you date someone strong,loyal,and acts like a guardian so you will be safe.Hope this helps....really i do...
Aww, I feel bad for you honey. You need to leave him right now, he is obviously having an affair, he doesn't respect you, I pity on that man. I'm so sorry, you can solve out things, maybe. Never forget, he had an affair and he beat you up. If you have children with him, it can affect their life, best of luck xoxo
Leave him..right now I've been going through the same situation but the difference is that I don't hit him..he always thinks I'm cheating on him, if I don't answer my phone, I'm cheating. If I'm not at home, I'm cheating. If I go to sleep late I'm cheating. Even if I'm 5 mins late to college, I'm cheating. When I take a lot of time taking a shower, I'm cheating, when I go out with girlfriends, I'm cheating. when I look at someone else, I'm wanting to cheat..and so on so on..I tried to leave him already, but everytime I do, he doesn't let me, is like a rubber band, the more we fight the more close we get..and it's real sad, One day he tried to kidnap me and drove for more than an hr..it was around midnight, he didn't want me to go with some girlfriends, so he took me to a different city, good thing I have 3 Apple devices, and one of them was at home so if I didn't answer my phone my mom for sure would find my iPhone..the bad thing is that he forced me to text my mom telling her I was ok..after that day everything became good like nothing bad has ever happened before, we were so happy so "inlove" but then weeks later it started again, he came to my house and choked me, then threw me, hitting my face on his car, pulled my hair etc etc..I'm scared I feel like I sleep with my own killer, the bad thing about my relationship is that he doesn't leave any bruises, so idk if I go to the police they'll believe me, girl ppl don't change, they don't want us, we think they do, but that's not love..they swear they do it bc they "care" but that's a damn lie, look for a therapists, I tried but he's so possessive I can't do anything or he'll find out..leave!! Leave or he'll kill you!!! You think he won't but i know for sure he will..it's hard i know, but it's better than to die for someone that you weren't born with! I'm telling you, just leave, I thought my bf was gonna change and look..he hasn't..