I don't understand this behavior and although the thought of him watching me does turn me on, I just don't understand. Could you help please? He fantasizes about me with previous lovers and asks for explicit detail about previous sexual experiences. Im ok with the idea in theory, I'm just worried about this hurting him and our relationship. He also enjoys me telling him made up stories of infidelity in detail.
what!!u say that this is ur boy friend!!!just one suggestion : MOVE-ON and don't back.3.and the explication of this:thats not a real boy friend .he want u just to be like he want .just have fun and crazy thing..if he love u he don't say to u that!!!thats innapropriate at all!!
Is it normal you ask? No, I don't thinks so, but at the same time, not exactly abnormal!
Is it normal that a woman should get 'turned on' at the thought of her boyfriend or husband watching whilst she has sex with another man? You openly admit that that 'turns you on!!' Ask yourself why! Seems he, your boyfriend, is two steps ahead of you. He has taken it all a little further and developed his fantasy a little more than you have. It's a kind of mental voyeurism in a way. Personally I don't think that that kind of thing is healthy in a relationship.
If he is having to use that kind of mental stimulation in order to have a fulfilling sexual experience/ relationship with you, then somewhere, something is lacking. Don't you feel inferior or lacking in anyway. This is his problem not yours. He is attempting to open your mind to something other. Move you into his fantasy sexual world. Some women / couples find that kind of interplay exciting and stimulating. Does it please you, is it OK? Can you maintain it, is it long term, can you relationship last based upon such?
Look at 'swingers'. A couple go to a party, part for a while, have sex with others then go home happily together and wait for the next party. Is that true love? Does it matter? They are both fulfilled.... or do they just kid themselves that they are... who knows!?
If you are happy with his 'game' then carry on, join in and contribute. If you, as you are, questioning it, or concerned about it then get out!! I think he, your boyfriend, is lacking in confidence about his abilities. He is trying to match his performance against others. The 'made up stories' he wants to hear are all about is a way for him to learn about what you want and what your fantasies are. Once he hears those, then he can try to fulfil them for you.....Maybe!!! He may have a hidden agenda. He may be priming you for the real thing, sex with his mate whilst he looks on! Tread carefully
I was in a three year relationship where the guy I was dating asked me to sleep with another man as part of his fantasy. One day he got the courage to ask me to do it. we spoke about it n fantasize about it. Then it actually happened. He promised it would only be once. He started demanding it n using it against me n threatened to end it because i wasn't showing that I loved him. When I finally put my foot down n I said no, it ruined us. In a small argument he cut me off, told me off by calling me horrible names n it devastated me tremendously! It was unfair n the biggest mistake I ever made. Three years wasted n one massive heart ache! My suggestion: dump him, if ur not good enough for him.....just the two of u... He's not really into u but only using u to fulfill his fantasy. But if your willing to get used , well then more power to ya!! But ask yourself , is it the type of relationship u wAnt n is it worth it?