... has gone down to nothing we have sex once a month (which is usually around the same time, weird I know) other then that I have to initiate aka half force and it feels like I'm asking him to do a chore like he doesn't enjoy it :/ I've talked to him and he either says its not his main focus in life right now or that his stress or that I whine to much about it , I understand that when life is stressful that he doesn't want to that's normal but right now our life is great! But nothing has changed :/ I don't know if the rest of my life is going to be this way and I'm not a cheater I don't I just don't want to be miserable. Is that selfish if me, anyone have any advice?