My mother and I get into fights more often than not. She has a really bad control issue and I have really bad anxiety. If she loses control of a situation, she flips out. She'll harass me, threaten me, and do things im pretty sure parents should never do, even if they claim they love you. I just want independence. Im 26, successful, and trying. I say mean things when I get upset, and I'm often disrespectful. She does the same, but in her eyes she can never be disrespectful because she's the parent and im the child. So I should always listen to her. What do I do?