Debate on teenage pregnancy,blame the girl?
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No, that's a age old question that i thought had been put to rest. The only blame as far as I'm concern is that there was a bad choice made on both their parts. But because the young lady has to carry the child in her body most young men figure it's her responsibility (WRONG ). We must stop slapping these young guys on the back and saying that a boy, 95% of these young girls lives are altered to the point they will never reach their full potential. Oh sure she will get child support, but basically the guy gets off Scott free.
I totally agree with chevey! Both partners decided to have sex and had to know that they were taking the risk of getting pregnant, even if they used protection! Both should have equal responsibility and equal blame if someone has to place blame. However, what is the point to assigning blame? It is what it is. No point to playing the blame game, it won't change the fact that she is pregnant. Only thing to do now is decide how best to handle the situation as best as possible. Blaming will only cause the situation to be worse. Come up with a plan to deal with the pregnancy and child (if the decision is to keep it) that is the best possible solution for everyone as much as you can. The best thing is to work through it as a team keeping open communication and being as supportive as possible to what both parties are going through. It won't be easy but it won't be as hard as it would be if you try to go thru it alone.
This is advice from someone who has been there. I was 19 so older than some but still it wasn't my plan. I had just started college! Don't lose hope. I have been married to the father of my child for 12 years this month and i still finished school (just took me 7 years!). These things do work out if you want them to and both parties are willing to work for it. If you know there is no potential for a marriage that doesn't mean you can't have a really good partnership in raising this child together as friends.
Best of luck!
We know why it happens, this has been a problem since man has been in the world. Sex or the feeling is such a great sensation that people young and old are willing to satisfy that urge at a moments notice, then suffer the aftermath that sometimes follows.
Exactly. Put in to great words. I was going to comment but you covered just about everything I was going to say.