But he told me that he doesn't think he completely lost interest. So what we decided to do was to not talk to each other for a week. So during that week he can find out if he loves me or that we should break up. As you can tell I'm extremely hurt. It's the third day and we sort of cheated but we talked to each other a bit. He said "I did miss you, but, could I have missed you more?" He kept telling me he loves me as an individual and that "it's not you it's me". It really seems like I'm waiting a whole week just for him to shut me down. I can't eat or anything. He said if we do end up breaking up then he wants us to be friends but I find that rude because I still love him and I would hate to see him with other girls all the time. He said not to jump to conclusions also. I'm curious what anyone thinks on this and if I should continue being friends with him after. Or maybe if you think I might have a chance?
When you break up you provoke a noisy fight with lots of shouted insults so you both know it's over with no chance of making up. A broken relationship stays broken forever.
If you are under 21 or so, losing interest is normal. You just act brave and get on with your life.
*Need a week to decide if it's love or break up
*It's not you it's me
*I want to stay friends if we break up
I'm going to assume you are under the age of 18 or very immature adults.
These are excuses people use when they are bored with the relationship, or it's getting too serious and the partner or family thinks marriage, or there is another person they want to fool around with.
When you love someone you don't need a week to decide. There is no question or indecision. Asking for a week is usually prepping the other person to get along without them. Wanting to stay friends is a ploy. If the other relationship doesn't work out they can fall back on the old relationship. It's an insult. It also prevents confrontation and the person can go off happily with no recriminations and look like they were a good person and even tell people, "See they aren't mad it was a mutual decision to break up."
All of those excuses are to look good and benefit the person who wants out. Those excuses are the basics of every piece of poop trying to dump someone without looking like the bad one.
Of course you feel bad! Who doesn't? Break ups suck! The person breaking up with you sucks more! They want out. Let them! Give them a shove out the door! You cry and eat chocolate for a month then you reconnect with friends tell them to introduce you and you date again. Life isn't over, you deserve better and you learn lessons about how to choose a partner and how to not take relationships for granted.
These are how you ultimately learn how to find The One. Because this guy isnt. Waiting around to see if you are still in the running is just the worst beat down and there is no excuse for being insulted that way. He's half way out the door. Give him a shove and slam the door.
Life goes on and gets better!