Okay, I am a successful 21 year old guy. Yeah, I know I am lucky. I am very grateful. I come from humble beings. I did not have much growing up, at all. I promised myself that I wouldn't make the same ignorant mistakes that everyone in my family had made. Now that I am successful, they think that they are successful, also. Don't get me wrong, I do not mind sharing and doing nice things for my family. However, I will NOT provide for you. They expect me to feed, clothes, pay their bills, etc. Whenever I say "no," they begin to put me on the guilt trip and call me "selfish." I even offered to pay for financial management classes sense it seemed as though they had a problem with managing money. They declined it. They just want handouts. I am really sick of this. It is NOT my fault that they all dropped out of school. What should I do? I am sick of them trying to take advantage of me! I hate to even hear their voices, because I know that they are only calling me to ask for money!
I think you should tell them that you can make your own choices. You're a grown up independant man, and don't let them fool you with that cheap guilt trip. If they decline your financial management classes, then say you either pay for this or nothing. If this continues, you can cut all contact with em.
Well you are no longer a child and therefore no longer under their control. You are an adult and just put your foot down and say 'no'. Be clear about it, make sure they understand that you are telling them not asking them and that your decision is final and there will be no further discussion. End of.
They won't like it, they will moan call you selfish and other variations on the same theme. Be ready for a bit of emotional blackmail as well - some along the lines of. "After all we have done for you, this is how you repay us....blah.....without us you would be nothing..." Standard guilt trip material basically.
They made their choices, it is not your fault they made poor ones and it is not your job to compensate them for their own stupidity.
Stop the handouts immediately.