I don't normally ask for help especially not from strangers but I'm at the end of my rope. My girlfriend and I have dated all through college she already graduated and has been working while my degree was part of a five year ba/masters program. Anyway, she met my parents a handful of times in passing but whenever we hangout and I suggest she come over and spend time with my family she always says he wants something more planned out so she can be mentally prepared.she wants to come to my graduation but I feel like it would be weird for her to spend the day with my family and not have a relationship with them.

Note:she has mentioned she has social anxiety and suffered since she was a kid, she claims that she can't drive to new places without freaking out(she has driven up to school plenty) and it's been four years so don't you think it's time It makes me frustrated that one day we can talk about a family and a future and have me to all the driving and my relationship with her family isn't the closest but at least I can say I have one

Any way I'm fed up and don't know what to do