My man and I have recently started having sex (the first time for me.) We have done it about 4 times now and while sex with him is fun, often times I can't take his penis. It's long and kinda wide and when he puts it in I make an audible gasp. Sometimes he'll get on top or behind and stroke for about a minute or two and I just have to tell him to pull out (and he does.) Or sometimes I ride him and it just takes the life out of me! Lol. And after he ejaculates, he also wants to go more rounds which I can't do sometimes because I'm just lifeless (not literally.) I was wondering was there something wrong? Is there something I can do to be able to maybe ease the pain and last longer?
Also, sometimes I don't orgasm... Any ideas as to why that might be?
Can't handle his dick- (Kinda EXPLICIT...)?
Answers (2)
I assume that you are a mature woman and old enough to have consensual sex?
Your boyfriend sounds like he is truly well endowed and probably far more experienced at having sex than you!
I think your lack of experience and his experience and eagerness may be the source of the problem.
You do have to talk to your partner. Tell him of the pain and discomfort that you are experiencing and the fact that having penetrative with him is not as enjoyable as you would like. You need lot's of foreplay and words from him that will help put you at ease before and during penetration. Maybe some KY jelly too. If he penetrates before you are ready then you cervix will not be ready to take him and you will become sore and experience pain. The jelly will help that along with plenty of foreplay. To sit on your partner and 'ride him' is one way of 'you' being in control of the depth and rate of which sex occurs. I think that your lack of orgasms are due to the fact that you are anxious before and during sex. We all have to feel comfortable and not {unlike you} lay in fear of being hurt. Educate him in terms of what you want. As time goes by and you become more experienced and him a little more sensitive to your needs, then you will both enjoy the experience of sex equally.