Hello I am a 23 year old boy. Recently I am getting jelous for my girlfriend's pelvic exam which was done by a male doctor.I am getting more jelous when she tells me that infront of that young doctor she was nude spreading her legs.and also when another male doctor checked her breast . Please help me. I am getting distributed for it, and our rrelationship is not going well,as whenever I want to talk with her I remember the incident what happened when her medical exam was going. Please help.......
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I have worked for a male doctor for many years...and also have had a male gyn since I was 15. At your age, maybe you should educate yourself. There is always a female nurse in the room when she is being examined. The pelvic exam and breast check is not a bad thing. You would be happy that she had that pelvic exam if she prevents herself from having ovarian cancer...losing her life to ovarian cancer.If she doesn't get checked she is putting herself at risk. If she doesn't have a problem with it you shouldn't either, most women go to a male gyn..instead of female....jealously? you need to grow up...you must be insecure with your relationship.
Hello parthaju.I understand you and you have the right to feel jealous and angry.Its not normal attitude for a woman to choose a male ob-gyn,its disguisting and only shows she has no respect for her body and herself.She is brainwashed and she is cheating you.Why dont you find a woman,one of her friends for example,and have a good time With that friend?Then you tell her and ask if that was ok for her?Sure she will be mad.Some women like to expose their bodies to other men.An easy way to do that is to find a male ob-gyn and show the body in a "legal way".If this girlfriend dont respect Your feelings,you should look for another girlfriend.This will only be more and more worse and at last it will end up in a break.You should look for another girlfriend who has a good moral and attitude.You should not Waste Your time on a girl who acts like a whore.There are millions of women out there who never ever would see a male gynecologist.And why did she choose a man,why didnt she choose a female doctor?I am an experiensed man who has been married With a woman for nearly 30 years and we have 2 wonderful children.Our marriage is still happy and of the reasons for that are that we have the same meaning about male gynecologists.I am a jealous man and she is a jealous woman,but the important matter is that we respect each others feelings.She is nearly 50 years now and has never showed her body to any male doctor,male nurse or male technisian.Only female Health staff has been taking care of her.She was a Virgin when i met her and she said already at that time that the only man to see her naked body,was me.So my friend,you are just a normal person With normal feelings,nothing wrong With you.And do you think that if you ask that male ob-gyn if its ok that you see the naked body of his wife,do you think he will say yes?hehehe.My advice to you is like this.If Your girlfriend is not willing to switch to a female ob-gyn,then drop her.good Luck to you.
Posted a reply yesterday which didn't apear. To the board writer, quite normal to feel that way, don't be brainwashed by people saying you are jealous and possesive.
I think you should speak to your girlfriend and ask her to insist seeing a female for intimate exams. Anyone that says these guys don't get aroused are from planet zod.
Good luck.
hello again. i answered this, but looks like my last comment was deleted for "some" reason. this is a very old controversy, that began when men began to take over the mid-wife buisness. it was objectionable then, as it is now. i also feel very strongly that it is wrong for men to be gynecologist or obstetrician. me and my wife also had issues with this before, but she agreed to switch to a female doctor for me. you have to be honest with your wife/girlfriend and tell her how you feel about it. odds are she will switch if she cares about your feelings. it takes time for the memory of an incident to go away, and for things to return to normal. i know it causes great anxiety thinking about what must have went on in there. you can easily google what these exams entails, but be forwarned it may make it worse to see it. my advice is to just talk to her about it, it will feel like a load has been lifted if you do.
Pity there is no date 09/02/14.
In my eyes these guys are perverts in not offering gender choice, for intimate exams.
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No, he just prefers she goes to a lady not a man. That is just a normal relationship physical boundary. It isn't appropriate for her to willingly choose a male for a nude exam involving full viewing of her most private body parts. That is private between her and him. The fact that she chooses a man instead of a woman shows they aren't compatible and they need to break up. Her body and access to it are no longer a private, intimate thing between he and her. She's crossed an intimacy, relationship barrier. He needs to end this relationship and make sure any future girlfriends and possible wife only goes to all lady gyn practices. OP, you aren't compatible and you should just end this relationship and move on. You now know this is important to you and any future potential long term mates need to feel the same as you. No undressing for strange men and letting male doctors handle her private, intimate body parts. That is special between you and her. It is an intimacy barrier. Even if she feels weird and isn't aroused at all by the exam that doesn't change the fact that an intimacy barrier was broken. A husband should be the only man seeing his wife like that or touching her there. Lady doctors for that only. Only in a life or death emergency should this line be crossed. This was not one of those, the way you feel in your gut speaks the truth to this. You know how violated you feel. It won't get any better, end the relationship because you two can be intimate when other men are seeing her in this state. Find someone you are compatible with. She is not for you.