I'm very open about my sexuality. I'm a lesbian, but I have found this great and wonderful man who would go to the ends of the earth for me... literally. I am 100% happy with him emotionally and physically. The only issue about this is... well... I'm gay. LOL. I guess this is when "I follow my heart, not the anatomy" comes into play, but this doesn't help my over reigning emotion and physical attraction to women... and I struggle with be-littling it almost every day.
With that said, I can't help but flirt with women. Especially when I'm working at the Renaissance Faire (where a lot of lesbians tend to flock to... I don't know why.) Anyway, as I said I am very open about my sexuality and relationship with everyone there and one of my good friends who work there, is very bi-curious. Now, I'm not going to sleep with someone, hell, I'm not even going to kiss someone of the same sex, because when this happened before, I was overtaken by my attraction and got into a lot of trouble almost losing the best person that ever came into my life. So, short story, long... this bi-curious friend texted me this:
"So how do you feel about me giving it to ya with a strap on? Danny (her fiance) said he's ok with it ;) plus we want to make a porn called klon-dyke. What do you think?"
I want to obviously tell her no, but I also want to explain that to me, sleeping with the same sex isn't just fun and games. It's making love, and I take it very seriously. She's a great friend and I don't want to come off rude or snobby so I need a response to this text as soon as possible.
Thanks for any help I receive.
LGBT, I don't know how to respond to this text... in a polite way?
Responses (2)
Good for you!!!!!!!!!!!!!
Maybe you are bi sexual. No, you are obviously bi sexual. You can't help flirting with women but you have a wonderful man in your life that you are physically and emotionally happy with! You say that you are open about you sexuality, so, that is inviting both sexes to attempt to engage you!
This friend that has text you has obviously seen and recognised your lesbian tendencies. It seems that both she and her boyfriend are looking for a bit open 'fun' and have decided that you may be a good candidate to join in!
There is a tendency and some opinions that gays will f*** anything! Any educated person knows that that is not the case. Your friend is obviously up for experimenting, pushing the boundaries and just, 'going for it'. You on the other hand see your relationships, with either sex, more on an emotional level as well as the physical one.
I think that when you respond to her text you need not to say too much. Don't criticise patronise or condemn her. Say only that 'Wow, if only I could engage at that level, but I can't! Sounds fun, enjoy!!! See you soon take care!' That should, although not clear, make it clear to her that you are not interested.
You know what...? That's very true. Lol. Thank you so much. I just responded "No thank yooou. My boyfriend wouldn't be very happy with it." and that's all. Heehee.