Me and gal friend are planned to get married, my parents have agreed, her parents have agreed after a war of 3 months but they said her to wait till her studies completes. My parents are in hurry in completing my marriage, i convinced them for waiting, but my parents are saying, if they have agreed why her parents are not saying us. then i tried to her parents with help of my sister, they were not responding properly. Her parents already knows that my parents want me to married within 1 year, even then they are not saying anything about marriage. Is there any idea of changing her mind.
Me and gal friend are planned to get married, my parents have agreed, her parents have agreed but?
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- 3+ months ago by Suresh1986
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- marriage, love, parents
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now as you said, it happened. both the parents met at a function, discussed about this and concluded. they will not give their gal to me.
Now both of us planning to run off home.
ohhh god is it so?
ok d best way is u sud run away.... bt i want to ask u some question before dat..... if u guys run away, can u keep her happy.... i knw u can.... but m askin dis coz if any one runs away dey won't get family support... dats y.... n if u think u can keep her haapy.... den best of luck dear...:) i willl pray for both of u
ohhh god is it so?
ok d best way is u sud run away.... bt i want to ask u some question before dat..... if u guys run away, can u keep her happy.... i knw u can.... but m askin dis coz if any one runs away dey won't get family support... dats y.... n if u think u can keep her haapy.... den best of luck dear...:) i willl pray for both of u
i spoked will her mom, she's still having hope, asked me to come to her home and talk with her dad.
now i need support and tips from u about how to talk with her parents and how to react
Now the gal is also not talking with me, saying if i talk u won't take any actions, so u come to my home and talk with my parents. now if she talks only i will know thier expertation and how to convince them.
make her understand d best way n it will b easier if d gal toks to u.... so d best way is tok to her n try to explain her properly n politely so dat c will tok to u wl let you knw abt her parents expectation
trying to contact, she said to her friends that, let him come and talk, i will support.
Because he only thought me how to talk to my parents in 1st attempt
ok then tok to her frnds n tell them to tel your gf to tok to u, if u r tryin to contact bt c z nt respondin den the best way is tok to her frnds n let them knw that u realy want to tok to ur gf as u nid her help in convincin her parents
Pooja. My gal talked with me, she said my dad spoked a lot about her, i also accept those things are very bad. Now her dad also will be angry on my family members. Now she's saying to come to her home and she's responsible for making her dad to talk with me. But if her dad doesn't convince then she won't talk with me and continue without their knowledge. Pls guide how to convince her dad, her mom is somehow ok. Pls give in detail.
suresh dis might be a lil personal but may i know y her dad doesn't like you? her mom is fine with dis then wats the prob with her dad...?
n i knw the situation u r in is damn complicated but in dis situation i will only tell u that make a strong bonding with your gal so dat wat ever the situaton may be but you guys will nt break up....
n plz tell y her dad does'nt like you... after dat nly it wl b easier to give you tips
Ya as u said it's tough job only, my dad said that ur gal is doing unwanted things to marry my son. So better keep ur daughter in control. For that her dad said, i know about my gal, u no need to say. This was the end of their conversation previously. See how i have been locked. I can't say him to forget such things also. I will apologise him. Will he accept me. They were saying now itself boy dad's talking like this, after marriage how he will behave. So after hearing this gal is also left the choice to her parents. Pls say something.
its damn complicate i mus say..... n nw the suggestion dat i wll sugest u might b a lil difficult bt giv it a try....:)
ok so here i will suggest you dat.... u tok to ur gal n make her understand.. dat dis things happens... and tell her tat ur dad thinks all dis becoz of certain misconception... n he is uncertain regarding my future so for this he is thinking all dis... nd which can only be cleared if u both try ur level best to make things all right... so now the best thing is ask ur gf to tok to ur dad....for c can only make ur dad understand
How it's possible if my gal friend talk's to my dad. Now the gal said, convince my dad for the misconception of ur dad. Then only i will talk to u like that. The next step wat i have to do is, i am going to her home next week. Watever it may happen, i am going to talk patience, saying watever happened is happened. My dad would have talked something keeping marriage to be completed in this year, u would have talked something, keeping ur daughter studies should complete 1st. I understand ur difficult and pain. Let it go till her studies complete, will see everything at end of studies. Now we will not disturb her studies. My dad will force me to marry someother gal, that is my prob, i know how to manage. Till now i had faith on my parents that they will understand me. But they haven't, it's plenty of time is there to convince them and i will do that. Is there any other prob. Marriage is between me and ur daughter, talk about both of us only, if there is any prob, let me rectify in this one year. I am going to talk like this. Is this ok. Or still i want to add something.
Just a reminder for u. She said, ur parents created bad name to me, by hearing this, u will oppose ur parents and do all. But still my parents are in love with me, they are not hating me. Then why should i disobey their words. I love u very much, i can't even thing a life without u. But ur dad have said that because of me only u r not marrying other gal. So i don't want to waste ur life, if i marry u, ur life will get spoiled. Also ur parents are also not accepting, my parents are also not accepting. I don't want to be a hinderance for ur life. It's clear that ur dad don't like our love. So if possible u talk with my dad, and make him to accept our love. Ur dad has bad thought on me, if i come out of home, or again i am fighting at home for marrying u, ur dad's thought will become true. U try to convince my dad, i don't have any strength to fight again at my home. Ur dad will say ok, then i will make ok at my home after a great struggle. Again ur dad will create some trouble. I am not enough courage to talk with my parents. So u come and talk, if they agree i will talk because 2 3 times we have started next time it will be ok next time it will be ok. I want to marry u, i have no issue in that. But marriage should happen whole heartly atleast by anyone parents. But this happened before one week she's still not talking with me. I have send nearly 20 sms in this one week. She haven't replied to anyone. I met an accident one day, that i informed him, for that only asked wat happened, how happened and take care. That's all. Now i want to know will she support when i go her home or she will say listen to ur parents word, don't spoil ur life.
god wats happening....?
in dis cases normaly one gets frustrated and loose hope....
plz make her undersatnd n tell her if ou both try then evry thing can be solved bt by loosing hope nothng wll b gt..
if c is nt tokin to u ask her frnd to tell her all dis.... u both nid to aware of dis.... love always pass through a rough path n u guys are facing dat rough time....
n c said she doesnt has enuf courage to speak to her parents... bt nw it is do or die situaton u wl have to tok abt this... for if c is nt toking abt all this to her parents then a time will come c will regret dis....
so nw d best way is ask one of her frnd to make her understand...
Today i talked with her, she completely lost hope. Wat ever i say, she's saying will see at time. I feel now she's talking to me, only to make me happy. And i don't think gals will talk for sake of others, they will talk only wat they feel. Rite.
yup right
i dnt understand wats happening...:(
n i guess you are elder dn me n m nt into all dis nor hav i faced dis situation ever bt stl wat ever i feel will work out m giving you those suggestion.....
did u tok to her?
Yes their worry is that only and if married in between studies, everyone will question them, why so soon is it love marriage like that and all