I have a boyfriend of one year and five months and we are engaged nine months ago. Now we are in a long distance relationship. We text each other a few times almost everyday, sometimes no text because I don't text him if he doesn't. Last sunday we got to skype and it was good. He said he loves me and stuff like that. But, I haven't heard from him for almost two days even though I texted him yesterday, no reply till now. I don't want to ask him if he still loves me or if he wants to break up and stuff like that. I want to believe what he has told me, like he wants to marry me, he will never leave me, or he loves me so much. But,now because he doesn't talk to me, I can't stop feeling he wants to end our relationship or something. Should I just wait for him to talk to me? I told him that he should tell me anything if something is bothering him because he tends to keep it in himself. I also wonder if something happened to him. I don't know what to do. I love him so mch and I don't want to break up, but this situation is killing me and makes me think of ending the relationship since this is too much and I don't want to get hurt. Any advice? Thanks!
My boyfriend stopped talking to me? What should I do?
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- 3+ months ago by Anonymous
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- boyfriend, text, distance, engaged, relationship, long distance
Added 3+ months ago:
Here is more details:
I'm from Japan, he's from America.
We both are going to be 25 this year.
We have known each other for more than 3 years. I studied at his uni and came back to Japan last summer and he came for work as well. And we were planning to live together this summer and get married sometime in Japan, but he thought it was difficult for him to live in Japan and decided to go back to his country and left Japan in the early of this month. And now he is actually planning to go to the air force, thinking about our future. Two weeks ago on skype, he said if he does go in the air force, we will get married.
Answers (2)
A little more information would be helpful:
Like:
How old you are and how old he is?
Why are you now in a long distance relationship? Who moved and why?
But since I do not have this information I will say this. Nothing is more unattractive than being clingy and needy (or even appearing clingy and needy). The surest way to lose your man is to ask him constantly "what's wrong?" or "don't you like me?".
If you want to keep your guy let him know you are confident in the relationship by not texting him everyday.
Try not calling him for a few days, go hang out with your friends and have some fun! Once your boyfriend sees that you can and do have a life without him things will be much better!
You probably don't have anything to worry about.
Don't be afraid to live your own life and have some fun! I agree you should wait for him to call.
If you call too much your boyfriend will not think you are special anymore.
The longer you wait the more your boyfriend will miss you...
If he asks why you didn't call, just tell him you were having fun with your friends.
For goodness sake --stop texting and reading between the lines and call him.
Pick up the phone - you can judge much better what is going on by the tone of his voice.
Maybe that is all he / you really need - to hear each others voices and re-connect.
>helen151
Thank you for your advice.
I will wait for him to talk to me, and I'm not going to bring this up to him on a text.
I don't think I will text him back soon because I don't want to feel like this again...
Even if I don't ask him, I hope he tells me first if he has something on his mind.
We don't talk on the phone only skype once a few weeks.
It may sound like we don't communicate much, but this is how we are.
I hope we are ok!
>upperhandy
Thank you again!
Actually I just got a text from him, but I still have mixed feelings even though he said he loves me too.
I feel like it is time to think twice about our relationship, because I shouldn't feel like this if we are doing ok. It's not good that I'm like this.
I won't text him back today and will think about us instead.
I hope everything is gona be ok!
I think you should break up with him. It seems as if he is scared to face the future together.
You sound too immature to be engaged. When people are planning on being married, one asdumes they have their feelings all worked out and have their heads on straight and yrust issues worked out and are making plans for the long haul. You cant even get beyong 2 days of no texting without thinking he wants to break up. That makes you high maintenance in my book. What happens to you when he goes into basic training and cannot contact you for several weeks? Who is going to keep your ego and confidence inflated? What happens when he is deployed?
I think you have issues you need to deal with before you think about marriage.
Thank you for your comment.
I added more information. I'm sorry I'm new here, and my English is bad since I'm not an English speaker.
I don't want to lose him. Before he left Japan, I told him I didn't want a LDR because I didn't want to get hurt by him dumping me while we were apart. But, he said that he won't leave me and he doesn't want to break up and everything is gona be all right. So, I believed him and now we keep our relationship.
Maybe I should just wait for him to text me for a more few days...
I want to believe him because I love him.
Thank you so much for your advices!