I have a colleague who comes to me and tries to grab my attention. He acts like romantically. I know that my manager told him to follow me and to keep an eye on me and to report her. Before that when he came to the workplace no one knew him because he was new. Shortly after he started working I found one day he stared at me and looked at me directly. After that he used to come and stared at me or sometimes in my private areas. One of my colleague found him doing that and she told him something then he used to approach to me and intended to introduce himself or wanted to communicate when he used to see me. After that my manager grabbed him and advised something so that he follows me and walk in front of me. So that he can report what I do. I don't know their exact motive. I know that he was previously interested about me so want to know now what he is doing is real or fake or cheating?
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You can politely ask him if he is shadowing you in order to learn the work because he is new. If not then you need to ask his boss. If he is then tell him you'll call him on the phone when he should come to your desk because you have other work to do.
Tell him if he touches you or gets too close its not appropriate. If he reports back you allow it or encourage it you get in trouble not him.
If he gets too close report him to Human Resources.
Thanks Mircat. Actually this year in January he came for advanced tarining. He is a would be specialist doctor and I am a admin Offier. The days he started to work here he used to stare direclty and used to give a very strong look. I seemed like sometimes he might be attracted physically. I never responded. After that one of my colleague contacted him and told something I don't know. After that he used to smile at me and whenever saw me tried to apporach. I never replied. After that I found he used to come to me with mere issues and strongly approached to me to grab my attention. I became weak and apporached to him. I need a friend or a someone like guide who can be wit me. Because my workplace I feel like I difficult to deal with people. He gave me his phone number and told answered 'yes' in reply of my question of asking to be friend. I was so happy. I texted thank you and he replied no worries. After few days I found he was directed by my manager to spy on me and to be romantic or interested to see my reaction and to report to her.If I call him, he never let me understand that. He remained silent and answered my questions. My manager used to do that whoever comes to me he grabbed them and told them to act like that to get my reaction. I went to my another manager but she heard and didn't take any action. I infomred HR but they told me to go to my another manager. His boss knows that because my manager and his boss both speaks together. I have tried whatever I can officially. My question is as he was unknown to me and my manager before, did my manager advise her to do this, after he found him intrested about me? So can I be certain that initial interest (before my manager planned with him to observe me) was genuin? I really need that. I know my manager is very critical she might want to find out something which will help her to report on me because she doesnt like me. But was his desire genuin initially? I wan tt know, because he came to me which touched my mind. If ultimately it is found that he cheated me can I take any action?