I've always been really afraid of people being very nice/ generous towards me, even if it's with a family member. Holding open a door is fine, but I get really uncomfortable when people buy me things or go out of their way to do something nice. The thought of someone buying me really fancy and expensive food makes me nauseous. It's not that I'm ungrateful- I'm INCREDIBLY appreciative, but for some reason I get this bad feeling deep inside. I've never been abused, and as far as I know I don't have any mental conditions or eating disorders... so what's wrong with me?
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I myself sometimes feel like that but not that bad. I would think you have trust issues. If you read/watch stuff about people betraying you or something about abuse that would make a little sense. People aren't always what they seem so I understand you get nervous. It's fine if you feel weird if a stranger or recent friends. Don't worry too much about it but if you really are concerned I suggest research or the doctor. Also, talking to your parents help.
Jesus words recorded at Acts 20:35: “There is more happiness in giving than there is in receiving.” With that simple statement, Jesus captured the essence of true generosity. A generous person gives freely of his time, energy, and resources to benefit others—and he does so gladly. Really, generosity is measured, not by the size of the gift, but by the motive of the giver. (Read 2 Corinthians 9:7.)
Today, it is obvious that gift giving continues to be a basic human way of establishing and strengthening the bond of love and friendship, to let others know that they care.
At one time I felt as you do but someone explained to me that I was robbing the person of their joy and rejecting their way of showing their love. It hurts the one who is sincerely giving you a gift to show how much they care. How would you feel if you gave a gift and it is rejected?
Today, it is obvious that gift giving continues to be a basic human way of establishing and strengthening the bond of love and friendship, to let others know that we care.
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