Am I wrong to not want to give a friend who died 1 1/2 yrs ago more $ towards her funeral?

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a friend died 1 1/2 yrs.  ago- I  donated $700 towards the cost of her  burial- her family continues to ask me to pay more-I feel I did what a friend should already - I do not want to feel bad/guilty if I am unable to spend more- am I wrong?

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first of all, I am sorry to hear about your loss.
A seven-hundred dollar donation is a very good one. Second if you cannot afford to donate more, then your friend's family shouldn't be trying to make you pay more. paying for the funeral should be the loved one's family responsibility. It's good that you helped pay for the costs, but you need to live within your means.

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I think you have given enough and you should not be guilty beside as what you said also your friend has its family.What have you given to them is enough and there is no reason for you to feel guilty about it.

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As a friend, there is no duty that you need to pay more, even that your friend's family required that. I don't think you are wrong, in fact, you are a very good friend. Just do what you think and don't care about what his family said or expected.

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Sorry for your loss.
I don't see what upkeep fees there might be. A decent slab ought to be weather resistant, visitors clean it as necessary. Haven't needed restoration in 20yrs, until some clergyman tried to convince someone it was (obviously suggested a $5k replacement over $100 retouch). Care for your friend is expressed by consoling frequenters, not donation.

Am I wrong to not want to give a friend who died 1 1/2 yrs ago more $ towards her funeral?

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