Okay, so I’m 13 about to turn 14, and there is a lot of peer pressure to have a skinny waist and stomach, but to also have big breasts and bum. I still haven’t got my period yet because I got pneumonia last year at Christmas, so it sort of “stunted” my growth and I haven’t grown very much physically in the past year. I am starting to become really upset and annoyed at myself for not being skinny and not having breasts, and I can’t buy any creams or pills because my mum probably won’t let me get them (as much as I would love to try everything there is). I eat very healthy most of the time and I do a lot of exercise, but my friends are starting to bully me about it, and I’m starting to bully myself about it too. IS THERE ANY WAY THAT I CAN GROW MY BREASTS AND GET SKINNY AGAIN WITHOUT BUYING CREAMS OR PILLS?
Yes, and it's even fun. But first you have to ignore the peer pressure. You will not benefit from the advice of other children.
Let that sink in: everything you know you learned from other children.
Now about big breasts: you only need one man to like your figure, and you get to choose the man. A lot of man do not care about big breasts or skinny waist, so all you have to do is choose one of those men.
Now the fun part: dancers always have the best figures. You don't need special exercises, just dance a few hours every day.
Skinny waist: study books about nutrition so you know how to eat right.
You've probably heard this a million times but you're 13! Your body is still growing, you need to be patient. All the pills and creams in the world wouldn't make any difference and would be a complete waste of money. There really is no way to speed this up. I'm worried that you consider people who bully you to be your friends. When I was at school my friends didn't bully me, they supported me, they wouldn't put pressure on me to look a certain way. You shouldn't accept this as normal behaviour. Please speak with a parent or an older sister about buying a good padded bra/ wonderbra. Explain how you feel under pressure and have considered taking tablets/ using creams and feel this is the only way you'll be happy - I'm sure they'll understand. My mum bought me a padded bra when I was 14 because I was self conscious too. As you get older you'll come to love your body and accept yourself for who you are. You might start to realise that the problem isn't you but the people you choose to surround yourself with. Would you feel the same way if your friends weren't putting so much pressure on you? Maybe you would but your friends should lift you up not bring you down.
I am 18 years old and have a fairly small chest: 32B. I often compare myself to others and have often wanted a larger chest to show off since I believed that’s the only way I would get a guy. Yet, I have still gotten into a couple of relationships and in those relationships those guys have loved me for who I am, not my body or personality.
(At least that’s what I hope.)