Okay so. I live in another country to my family and my boyfriend of 1 year lives in the same country as me but in a different city. It's my 21st birthday today and we had originally planned to go back to England together for him to meet my family but he ended up cancelling because his mum is sick and he had to go and see her (she also lives in another city to him) and that's okay I completely understand, but, when it was his birthday a few months ago I spent weeks trying to find the perfect present and he loved it (he'd never really celebrated birthdays before but he really enjoyed all the attention I gave him), I bought him a cake, I put up banners and I took him for a drink etc, because none of his family live in the same city and there was no one else to do that stuff for him. So yeah after that I literally told him that birthdays are a big thing to me, they are, I never really celebrated them when I was a child and now I love to celebrate them. Now because we live in different cities I was supposed to go see him next month. But. I had a surprise few weeks off work so I went to see him this weekend up until the day before my birthday (today I go back to England a without him) And all weekend he didn't do anything for my birthday, we just stayed in and watched films, now I'm not talking like he had to arrange a party or take me out for a fancy meal I mean literally 'you want to go for a drink?' idk to at least acknowledge it would have been nice. So I told him I felt that way and the next day he'd arranged for a fancy meal in a nice restaurant. Which was lovely, but strange because we are not the fancy restaurant type couple. But anyway I thought that maybe he'd give me a gift, nothing big again I'm talking like less than £20 just something he saw and thought yeah she'd like it, or even something that I'd hinted at (all really inexpensive things) and he has the money to, but I was so disappointed that he didn't get me anything after I literally looked for months, and had to order his gift from America from a specialist and I designed his card so that it fit his humour perfectly. Plus I've been hinting about my birthday for months
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Nobody owes you a gift. A gift is not a tax. You said you are aware that he is not at all acquainted with the concept of the birthday gift. It sounds like you are not aware at all. Men don't do hints. Get that through your head. They just don't.
It sounds to me like you both need more experience.
Im very much aware that no one owes me a gift. And to be honest it's not that he didn't get me a gift it's the fact that I put so much effort in and specifically told him that birthdays mean alot to me and he disregarded it.
And experience no. But maybe finding a way to meet eachother in the middle.