Me and my fiancé we want to get married in a church that my Parents and my grandparents got married in but my fiancé family said that if we get married in a church they will not come neither will the grandparents my fiancé said to me that he does not care he says what he wants not what they want Don’t you think it’s sad that they don’t even want to see their own son and great-grandson getting married I really don’t want to change this I really want to get married in a church but how can we talk things out and convince them to come
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So don't change it. period. It's YOUR wedding day if it really means that much to you guys than do it!!! His parents already had the chance to get married, already experienced their "day of joy" and you definitely don't have to do something that doesn't make you happy just to please others.If they can't love their son enough to come to his own wedding that's on them. And if he can't get married without his parents, girl just try and have something like having one part of the wedding in a church and the second half wherever they want. But honestly its the start of Your life, it's not their parents getting married. They shouldn't care where it is unless it's like religious or something but other than that, they should accept whatever makes you guys happy. It's really not about them and if having the wedding in a church upsets them, and they don't come, you'll still live Enough of parents telling you how to live your life, you've listened to their decisions all you they've lived already. Now it's your turn to start a life of your own. Good luck hope everything work out!
Ask the advise of the priest from the church you wanting to get married at. That a tough one. Just keep the doors of communication open. You may need to find a common ground nutrual spot if you want both family there. Otherwise it comes down to you and who helping to pay for the wedding. . You could do like me sister did. Have two weddings. But in her case her husband and his family and friends live in different state. So they had two weddings one for his family and then one for our family and her friends here. . Something to think about. Best wishes.
Well, you know, some churches are just awfully hard to put up with. And a marriage is supposed to be a union of two families, although in the modern way of thinking, both families are rejected and ignored. So what you have is two young people who don't care what anyone thinks but they think both rejected families owe them their approval. This is called "dysfunctional family". There is no satisfactory answer.