I'm 6 months pregnant with his baby I only was seeing him about a month before conceiving and he was really nice and absolutely in love with me I thought but now it seems like an obsession he won't let me go any where with out him he's threaten to kill me or kill him self if I leave him when I tried to he followed me and cholked me I have no income or support need help
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When I read the first part it seemed to me like he had been trying to be there for you while you were pregnant and hopefully wanting to be a good father when your child was born. But when I read he's physically hurting you and threatening to hurt himself I see the problem. Don't be afraid to go to a friend or relative you trust and please report him to the police. He's not only hurting you but he's hurting your child too. Don't let a man take advantage of you like this, you're a strong and brave woman and you deserve to be left alone. If you live with him call the police without his knowledge when he's not around. They may not solve your problem but they will help. You may say there is no support, but trust me, there is support. This is domestic violence, when your child is born just imagine the things that could happen. Dont be afraid to ask for help, go to your parents, friends, police. No family member or friend would stand back and watch a loved one go through this.
Poor child*
No offense, but he sounds like a creep. He's twice your age! But I understand that love is blind and all and everybody makes mistakes big and small. You said he seemed nice at first but then he turned on you. If you feel threatened and are scared for your life and child's life you should definitely do something. If you know he won't get physical or try to hurt you if you do this: I suggest you two sit down and have a talk. Tell him you don't like being followed around, if he really cared about you he would trust you. Tell him you appreciate what he's done for you so far, but to please stop. From what you have told me it seems like he really wants to have this kid, but he's doing all the wrong things to keep you with him. If you really want to get away from him you should alert the police and you could maybe file a restraining order, he could even get arrested if you tell them about how he's choked you and threatened to even kill you. Like I said this is domestic violence, it is a CRIME. He could get time in jail for what he's done to you. And he may have distanced you from your friends and you may not be close to your family but that does not mean they do not care about you. Do not hesitate to contact a long lost friend or family member. If I was an old friend of yours and the last time I had talked to you was 5 years ago for lets say fighting over some real big issue and I got a phone call from you today asking for help, no matter what our history together is I would be there in a heartbeat. You can't change him, once he hits you it will never stop. Please get help.
Thx for the advice this really helped and if he keeps it up Ive made up my mind to tell child services and have the baby adopted into a good healthy family maybe not what's easiest for me but probly what's best for the baby
You're welcome! Whatever you feel is best for you and your child. Please keep safe, congratulations on your child, and best wishes :)
That's what I find so frustrating is he can be such an amazing guy and takes care of me and is so good to me in a lot of ways but than if I wanna go hangout with a friend he won't let me and if I leave to go for a walk he follows me every time and it's a huge fight and he always gets physical and I'm far from perfect I can call names when provoked but I've never laid a hand on him or threatened to hurt him and I'm 22 and I'm pregnant he's 39 much older and doesn't have to deal with all the hormones and all the pregnancy symptoms I do and part of me believes he's just overly protective cuz the baby but the other side of me wants to move and not ever tell him where I live cuz I know he has an obsession over me if he loved me he want me to be happy and support my decisions but wen I was not even 2 months pregnant and we were broke and almost homeless I went to the doctors to get an abortion (I don't believe in it if u are in the right position to raise a child) but I am not and I wasn't and he refused to let that happen he told me if I killed his baby he would kill me and it would be war he did all these things that made it hard for me to make my own choice like cutting me off from all my friends making me live off him so I was dependant on him and I don't really have any close family i really needed him to be more understanding and emotionally supportive but he didn't care what I wanted he didn't take my concerns seriously instead he threatened me that I had to keep it I just try and ignore all the negative and think of the positive and try to make it work for the baby but I know I'm gunna leave him one day he'll b 40 soon I just turned 22 and now I'm stuck with him and I don't know how it'll work out in the future but I think he'll stalk me and harass me until the day one of us die he's even admitted it that he will nvr leave me alone and wut will happen if I break this relationship and unfortantly that's who my child's father will b the pot child.