On my boyfriend's birthday he lost a close relative - it was out of the blue and very shocking. Boyfriend is not only grieving over his loss and the fact that he probably can't be at the funeral (due to extreme weather), but shocked by how this healthy person passed and also he is disappointed that his loved one passed just a few months before I was supposed to meet him. We have been dating a year and half, live together, and I am showing support through affection, time with him, talking, listening, etc. Because he likes when I give him cards and things I want to give a sympathy gift, but it is a unique situation. Websites have cheap-looking trinkets that sit on your mantel and remind you someone died - he wouldn't want that, and no one has boyfriend-friendly sympathy gifts. Any ideas? Men: what would you have liked from your girlfriend after the death of a close loved one? Note: nothing can be delivered to his work so it is limited to home.
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First of all there is no gift for sympathy.if you really care about him then you must stay close to him.This is the time when he really needs you. Just keep him happy get him busy in the things he often like to do. On this new year I lost my grandmother. She was healthy and we didn't even think of that, but I am lucky that I have a big family so everyone try to do something to come over that accident. I love a girl but I am engaged so I can't even tell her that I love you. She also smile at me but I am not sure that she likes me, but her behaviour shows that she care about me and the important thing is that she is the first girl that has come in my life like an angle a true love. I like the way she care about me. So boys really care of those who care about them specially a girl really care about you. So he is Lucky that someone care about him and she is with him. I wish I could be like that lucky,but I ain't.
Maybe you misunderstand. I am AWARE that he needs attention and I am doing that. But because I am just a nice person I want to give him a gift. You are wrong when you say that there are no gifts for sympathy. People give flowers, cards, wine. Florists shops and gift shops have entire sections devoted to sympathy and grief, but usually they are aimed at women, marred couples, and family. I didn't ask if all I should do is give him a gift. I asked what would be a nice gift. For example, if someone I loved passed away I would like a photo album as a gift, because then I could take out pictures I have of my loved one and put them into the album. It would be a nice way to remember them and go through a grieving process. But men and women grieve differently. I am not a man so I don't know what a man would want. Maybe a movie date. I like your idea of doing fun activities with him - perhaps I can plan a fun date and the gift can be movie tickets or something like that. Still, I with there was something else I could get him that would be more touching. Don't underestimate the sentiment of gifts =)