Lately I have been sort of ignoring my former friend. She makes me feel uncomfortable, and pressures me into things I don't want to do. I feel like she doesn't truly care about me. Yesterday she approached me and started crying, asking 'what she did' and 'why i'm ignoring her'. I explicitly stated that she didn't do anything, and that I'm having problems at home (which I am). She still thinks she did something wrong. Please help.
How can I fix this friendship?
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- 3+ months ago by -Foxius-
- Topics:
- friend, friendship, pressure, feel, friends, uncomfortable
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For starters, you might want to refrain from being disingenuous about your end of the relationship. If you're constantly getting pressured into doing stuff that you don't want to do, and silently forfeit your preferences every time, that resentment's gonna build up naturally. Avoidance is just one form of expression for loss of control over said resentment. Everybody has their breaking point.
I understand that in a broken home, oftentimes the sort of coping mechanism one might develop is to sit there and take it. Rise above that cradle of toxicity. Friends hang out because and whenever they want to. They compromise personal preferences because they prefer that over being alone, not because of emotional blackmail.