I have been in a relationship for over a year and a half and I have been fingered but I really want to stay a virgin till marraige and so does my boyfriend. I have been molested twice this past year by two people and I'm having emotional issues that cause me to regret everything sexual I do. My boyfriend and I are very committed to each other and hope to marry. I have checked online to see if it is hard to stay a virgin till marraige, and most say you might as well give up if you have been fingered. It has discouraged me. I want to stay a virgin for religious reasons. But what if my boyfriend and I get out of control and have sex. Will I feel the regret I usually do? And will it ruin our relationship? Because I don't want to lose him. I love him.
Honestly, it is hard to stay virgin. “Isn’t it better to give in?” you might ask. “After all, isn’t everyone having sex?” But STOP and THINK! Fact: Not everyone is doing it.
What about those who are? Researchers have found that many of such youths experience one or more of the following rude awakenings.
Distress. Most youths who have engaged in premarital sex say that they regretted it afterward.
Distrust. After having sex, each partner begins to wonder, ‘Who else has he/she had sex with?’
Disillusionment. Deep down, many girls would prefer someone who will protect them, not use them. And many boys find that they are less attracted to a girl who has given in to their advances.
The bottom line: Your body is far too valuable to give away. Show that you have strength of character by obeying God’s laws against premarital sex. Then, if you do marry one day, you can have sex. And you’ll be able to enjoy it fully—without the worries, regrets, and insecurities that are so often the aftermath of premarital sex.—Proverbs 7:22, 23; 1 Corinthians 7:3.
Engaging in premarital sex is like taking a beautiful painting and using it as a doormat
It will be beneficial if you stayed as a virgin. Also, God allowed sex on already married couple. So wait till your marriage.
it's actually pretty difficult. I've been going out with my boyfriend for almost 8 months, and while we haven't had sex yet, we've come very close. When you're so attracted to somebody that you're willing to marry him or her, sex just seems like the next option.
Be careful not to get hooked into a trap, though, that you really want to have sex with the guy and you get married prematurely. Also, sex before marriage is not necessarily a bad thing; you just need to be emotionally mature enough to handle it. Have sex when you're ready, and not just when you think you're ready, when you know that you are.
Not hard at all ..........well that's cause I am surrounded by other races and I rather marry my own cause I want my kids to look like me .......you know .......rather than the other person kinda like 50/50 not well it has your blood lol lol but also my beliefs system to I am afraid but also I want to live in Europe and I digg cute brunette hot cuddly girls that I want to tickle and hear laugh girly and tickle her belly ooh wee sounds fun but sex should be after marriage cause it means you love her rather than see her as a sex object!!!!