I'm a middle school guy who needs help. I have been unpopular for a very long time. I have friends, but they're literally the only guys in the class(besides me) who are unpopular. I just can't seem to get it right. And when I think something is going well, it spirals out of control. So please, help a guy out. I know there are tips like "be yourself" and "don't change" but they are the worst things for me to do because, well, "myself" is the opposite of who I want to be known as. I want to be known. Tips?
How to be popular?
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- 3+ months ago by Invisblem...
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Find out if the school or school district has a psychologist and make an appt.
Start doing some Sherlock Holmes investigation.
1. You are generally identifoed by the people you hang out with. Yeah yeah we know about being nonjudgemental but we know that most of the time that's a bunch of BS. Some kind of opinion is made on your friend choices. So make a a friend or two who are a level or so above the friends you have now. There are other levels in between unpopular and popular. Hang out with them and invite them in to your group.
2. Start observing the popular guys. Pick a theme. Greeting and joking around for instance. How do the popular guys do it. Learn their moves. Mirror their moves.
3. Watch the other guys in the groups how do they do their hair and dress. Do they lead conversations or join in? Practice at home until it becomes second nature because its the new you you.
Good luck.
Take acting classes. Little boys learn how to act from their mothers, but that is getting to be rare these days. You just have to take acting classes so you can learn how to be sociable. A big plus is that vocal skill will improve your earning power more than any other skill. That is according to "Dress For Success" by John Molloy and I recommend you get the book and consider all his advice for students. But don't get hung up thinking you have to wear expensive clothes.
Story tellers:
www.youtube.com/results?search_query=aaron+wilburn (Wow. Just wow.)
www.youtube.com/results?search_query=utah+phillips (Raunchy, but well told.)
www.youtube.com/results?search_query=jerry+clower (Jerry doesn't tell stories, he whoops them.)
It is significant that successful salesmen are almost always good story tellers. Jerry Clower started as a fertilizer salesman.
I'm not sure if this helps but I have some tips.
1.If Someone says something to you reply in a confident voice not in a mumble and try to make it funny.
2. If you have any talent like drawing or basketball you should try to express it so if anyone else has the same interests maybe you guys will connect.
3.If someone says, "I barely heard you talk." say something like "I do talk but not to you." It is pretty funny and maybe the other person will find it funny too.
4.Concerning your friends you should make them feel better about themselves so they get more confident and social as well.
5. Try to join clubs that you like maybe your classmate is joining and then you have an opportunity to talk with them.
6. If something embarrassing happens to you just laugh it off and try not to show you embarrassed.
No matter what you do, you will still be the same person you are, like it or not. Being popular will not matter in the long term. Do not concern yourself with being seen as inferior. Do you really even want to be popular? Why are popularity so desirable? Do you really want to be doing what they are doing? What is popular is not always roght, what is right is not always popular. Stay who you are. You don't need to be happy with yourself. But you do need to tolerate who you are. Do the right thing.
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im a popular person but i haven't always been so popular and i always have to take up for not so popular people my advice is be you all the time and dont care what nobody say about you because everybody have their own opinion and nobody can change it.