I am single mother of a 14 years old daughter. She has some severe social problems. I am aware of the fact that at this age friendship is of highest importance. Nonetheless, her reactions are really extreme. She does not like her friends, she adores them. When everything goes smooth she is happy and neglects the home and the relations with me. When there is a fight between them (my daughter and one of her friends) then comes the tragedy. No homework, no eating, nothing, only crying. Then the relationship with me is good and warm. But the moment they reconcile - everything starts over. How to react? To understand and be supportive? I've tried but then she became even more sad. To be more firm - I am afraid that it will effect her emotionally when she is already depressed. Please help.
Try to talk to her more often and let her talk about her friends, act like you are excited to know her friends, invite them at your home, be one of them so when you speak and give them advise, they will listen because they know you are with them. This way, you can lead them to the right path.