I have been with my fiancé for a little over a year now and I always am jealous when we go out or if we watch something that has girls that I know are prettier than me because I always think he's thinking, "damn I wish she was mine or she's so hot" I always think he's looking at other girls when we are in public and when I say something he gets so defensive. I never been jealous before in my life I feel like it's because I've never been in love with anyone before. I sometimes think I'm not good enough or not perfect enough for him. When we get into fights he'd sometimes call me stupid or worthless and that's why I feel so insecure with myself. He always takes his phone everywhere he goes and complains when I try looking at it because I take too long or when I grab his phone he says he has to show me something. but I know I don't do anything wrong and I leave my phone laying around when he's around cause I know I have nothing to hide and when he goes through it I never complain. I don't know what to do I love him so much but I don't want to push him into leaving me for my insecurities. I feel like I can never do anything right.
How to stop being so jealous in my relationship?
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- 3+ months ago by Borndepre...
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- girl, little, watch, over, year, always, relationship, girls, years, relationships, jealousy
Added 3+ months ago:
Im not like this anymore. But I find it funny how everyone missed the details of him calling me worthless etc. thats the reason why I was like that and that I wasn’t that way in the beginning so ya’ll should read things throughly and look at my newest question same guy.
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Well you have to be more trusting thats the bottom line and he isn't with theses other girls he comes back to you so there isn't really any reason for it. But if you continue to act jealous all its gonna do is push him away guys have a real problem with this you don't mean to i'm sure but in the end you'll lose out
The bad news is that you seem over possessive and are trying to extend some sort of control over his every move.
Really need to give the guy some space when you are around him and not think too much on what's happening when you not there. That's what trust is all about.you aren't happy with yourself and your own accomplishments, and you're clinging onto him to be your world. Jealousy is an idea and a perception and a belief that leads to emotional reaction. The emotional reaction of jealousy can sometimes lead to expression of that emotion.
So for now, just now, just right now, go a head, feel jealous. You cant' stop yourself from feeling your feelings. Not immediately, anyway.
What you CAN do isa make a discipline for yourself, a discipline that you take on because you are a moral person who des not want to hurt anyone who does not deserve to be hurt. And a discipline that you take on because you would rather be with a partner than die single, miserable, and feared and hated by every ex you ever had.
That discipline is called Biting Your Tougue. Yes, you are jealous. That doesn't meant the guy should endure hearing you be angry about it. After all, you have said that you know that it is YOUR problem.
If you are able to refrain from wrecking this man and this realtionship with irrational jealousy, that is to say, with abuse, then you will have time to work on this psychological problem later, Mean
while, play it cool, sister.
tell him you need to talk and tell him how you feel.. my girlfriend gets jealous all the time but in the end i never call her rude names bc i dont want to hurt her. she knows at the end of the day its just me and her and she knows id rather have no other, ask him what he honestly thinks about you and if he respects you