... example, I recently travelled to Cuba and now that I’m back we are doing a Spanish project and me and my BFF picked Cuba. She keeps denying my ideas and talks to me as if I were stupid. I want her to stop thinking that she is better than me. Plz help. Thanks
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I know that's what you want and that nobody likes being treated that way.
But the bottom line is the only one who is going to make any changes is you. That's not the answer I wanted to hear and it took me 2 more years to realize that was true. 2 more years of tears and unhappiness. Who was reresponsible for my misery? Me.
People who are egotistical or narcissistic or bullies cannot be changed. You can ask them to change. You can tell them to stop. 99 percent of the time they don't. Why should they? They aren't the one feeling put down or being treated poorly. They are on top and having fun. There are no consequences to what they do because they are given a free pass. The excuse is and one of thes you are going to use: I won't have a friend if I do that. They aren't a friend if they hurt you. Sometimes they are nice and we have fun. That's what keeps you coming back for more bad treatment. Do you think they don't know that? Its planned to keep you in your place.
So it's up to you to put a stop to it. Tell her this is the end either she stops the treatment show respect and treats you as an equal or you are through and the friendship is toast. You have to finish the project because its assigned but if her attitude doesn't change by the time the assignment is over walk away delete her from all social media do not text, email or chat. Do not discuss specifically or give reasons. Its all a smoke screen to get control of you again. These types of people are not used to losing control.
Good luck and don't let it take you two more years to wise up and accept its you who has to change things.
Thank you so much. Now I understand why she is sometimes fun and why sometimes she treats me this way. After the project I’ll start to keep my distance.