Hi, so the starting of November I felt bad for my friend because she was staying in a hotel n thought hey how about you stay here until you find a place n just pay me.. she had mentioned her boyfriend was with her most times and I agreed said it's fine but if i have my worker here you got to leave and my worker can't know.. (thinking it wouldn't be for long anyways) I had also mentioned I have no furniture due to leaving it all behind in past relationship that I have to get furniture because I didn't want the problems or even to talk to ex. So she said she has furniture in storage but I said no point if it's temp anyways n I'll work on getting stuff. I live in 1 bedroom apartment so she has now made bed in living room and her boyfriend is here 24.7 she meant to say he lives where she dose. And they fight 24.7 and loud. They also sleep all day n up all night with friends in and out making noise n her family come over eat sleep shower n if I'm gone I have come back couple times to them chilling in my room. Finally I stepped up n said I want money and she said fine but I have given u some already n I'll pay percentages.. well I didn't wanna ask for to much n I'm extremely shy. So I get $545 for superstore every month 272.50 every 2 weeks so I said I want $120 month for food. And rent is $995 so I want 400.00 for both and I got Wi-Fi just for her because I don't use it my phone is broken n I use DATA ONLY. that costed me 91.75 so I said I wanted 80.00 so in total I wanted 600.00 but minus what she gave me she owes 280.00... so I told her that today n she said she thinks that's not fair considering they sleep on the floor in my living room so now she wants my room.. then maybe she will pay that and the food she said she never really eats here yet all my ice cream. Pop. Juice. Chips. Milk. Cereal. Ect ECT is all gone n I didn't eat even half of anything and her friend n family eat here n come n go n they fight and are not even looking for another place.. plus my storage room is full of her stuff and they took off the door handle n put a lock on the door which was sanded down for lock to work so that's damage to door on my end in the future and heat register is hanging off bc her bf knocked it off. So my question is (sorry for long story) What do i do? Am I asking a fair price, is it to much or not enough or is she being cheap.. I need someone to help me with insight..
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You’re being very generous with your prices. To put up with all of that and barely get what you asked for isn’t fair to you. Lay down some ground rules, make a contract with her to make this official so she can’t cheat you of any money, as if the time ever came where there was a situation you had to go to court or take her out of your home you get what you’re owed with the help of the law. If she’s your friend, talk to her and try to make her understand how you feel. Her actions are uncalled for and this isn’t an excuse as although she is in a stressful situation, she went from a bad attitude to taking advantage of you. This is in your own home and although it’s hard, you should at least get paper work from her and talk to her friend to friend. As for the boyfriend if she doesn’t talk to him, say something to him. If this is too invasive (which it sounds like) don’t let uninvited guests in your house if this conflict becomes this bad. Tell them no more invited guests and don’t give them things until you get what they owe you. Make your rules and wishes very clear, and this isn’t rude. Expecting something from a friend and not getting what you expect and instead getting all of their problems isn’t your fault. Make no exceptions and stick to your word, this way you’re truthful and not being rude. Also remember there’s a difference between rudeness and honesty or staying to your word, so telling them your expectations and fulfilling your word would be ok no matter what they say. About the food lock away some of it for you, as although you may tell them not to take it that doesn’t mean they won’t. You can even make it clear if you do if the situation doesn’t clear up. Also whatever you do don’t give her your room, it’s not your problem she can’t get a home and live how she wants to at the same time. Hope this helped and I wish you the best of luck.
If they aren't on your lease. Then you could ask them to leave. Let motels deal with there scheduled of hours and family and friends coming and going. Allot of motels won't put up with hours like that. And night traffic of coning and going leads to cops called or motel management kicking them out. A motel charges extra for more than one person staying I'm the room. . I'm not sure what motels cost in your area . But low end motel rooms for 2 adults is $60 per night. Plus taxes. So if the motel give a weekly cheap rate they looking at $1200 per month. And most cheap motels don't got stoves and kitchen. . It's your place. You are on the lease. So your price is a fair price. It's about half what they be paying to stay at motel. You got to be careful management doesn't kick you out. You have to think of yourself. It doesn't sound like your friend is thinking about you . Take care of yourself first. Your place is to small for all that going on there. And that many people. Put a new lock on your room. Since they put lock on your closet that show they don't trust you. So why should you trust them. Lock up your room when you are gone.
Remember in the beginning you said your worker couldn't see them? Its time to let the worker see them!
You were a fool for letting them in. They are users, moochers, unemployed riff raff and if they stay there long enough they can claim residency and you can't kick them out. They are storing stuff, changing locks, demanding the bedroom, eating your food. Who looks like they are permanent residents especially if they get the bedroom..not you kiddo. It will be you who has to move to be rid of them.
Go talk to your worker and ask how to evict someone who was supposed to stay temporarily for a week or so but who has moved in.