There is a kid at my school who is so mean to me. Im going into 7th grade in september and I hate him. What should I do?
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sorry to say this helen151 but asking for help did not work for my bully problem. if you look at my answer for this question you'll know why.
there's no one way to stop a bully. i was never able to but if you can some how get him to just talk with you or invite him to something it might help. chances are he's been bullied alot to. i know that's not what you have in mind and it's a long shot but you should still try something like that.
*** How Can I Protect Myself at School?
How to Beat a Bully—Without Using Your Fists
Some bullies want to provoke you just to see how you’ll react. But the Bible gives this wise advice: “Do not hurry yourself in your spirit to become offended.” (Ecclesiastes 7:9) The fact is, ‘returning evil for evil’ could add fuel to the fire and lead to further problems. (Romans 12:17) How, then, can you beat a bully without using your fists?
Take a lighthearted approach. If a taunt is simply an attempt at humor, try to laugh it off instead of getting offended. “Sometimes it’s just a matter of not taking aggressive statements so seriously,” says a boy named Eliu. If a bully sees that his words have little effect, he may stop the harassment.
Use mildness. The Bible says: “An answer, when mild, turns away rage.” (Proverbs 15:1) A kind reply is what the bully least expects, and it can defuse a tense situation. True, keeping coolheaded when under attack takes self-control. But it’s always the better course. Proverbs 29:11 says: “All his spirit is what a stupid one lets out, but he that is wise keeps it calm to the last.” Mildness is a sign of strength. The mild person isn’t easily thrown off balance, while the bully is often insecure, frustrated, or even desperate. For good reason, the Bible states: “He that is slow to anger is better than a mighty man.”—Proverbs 16:32.
Protect yourself. If a situation seems out of control, you may need to find an ‘escape route.’ Proverbs 17:14 says: “Before the quarrel has burst forth, take your leave.” So if violence appears imminent, walk or run away. If escape is impossible, you may need to ward off violence the best way you can.
Report it. Your parents have a right to know about what’s happening. They can also give you practical advice. For example, they might suggest that you speak to a school official, such as a guidance counselor, about the matter. Be assured that parents and school officials can handle the matter discreetly, so as not to get you into further trouble.
The bottom line? A bully can’t win if you refuse to play his game. So don’t get sucked into the flames of his anger. Instead, take control of the situation by employing the foregoing suggestions.
I did watched this whiteboard animation. So cool.
When asking for help fails, you have find ways to stop this mean kid for good. For me i used strategy usually and violence when its necessary. Here's my bully story if you want to read it.
MY BULLY STORY:
[SITUATION]
In my 6th grade, i had a conflict with a bully and his friends (their like the bullys in the karate kid movie except without using kung fu). I had no friends at that time to help me. They were bullying me and my brother almost every mourning at school. they wanted us to be their bully victims.
[ASKING FOR HELP]
I asked my mom for advice and she said "go tell a adult from school about this", the problem about this was i dont know their names, they don't have classes with me. The bullying continued until 1 day in lunch, i got a chance to tell the campus supervisor. The bully and his friends followed me and i came to the supervisor to tell him whats going on. He stops them from leaving and talked with them.
[ASKING FOR HELP FAILS]
The bully and his friends manage to trick the campus supervisor into thinking im the bad guy by saying things like, "he started this problem, we got witnesses to prove it" (the fake witnesses are their other friends that would help them). The campus supervisor believed them without talking to the fake witnesses, I was then later sent to counseling office and i was givin a garbage detention. I felt very sad and angry.
[THE FIGHT!]
So the the bullying went on until 1 mourning, the bully came to me again with one of his friends. They were following and anoyed me. 1 of them tryed to steal something in my backpack. I pushed his hands away from it and he pushed my back after i did that. In my mind i made a plan, i stoped acknowledging his existence which made him angry long enough to be ready to push me to the floor. when he did it i turned around and kicked his chest on heart area ( if my kick hit his heart strong enough he would have actually die). He fell to floor and i kicked him multiple times until he was not able fight back. As i leave the fight scene, his friend came to me and said "whats wrong with you?!" then i said "whats wrong with your friend?!". He left me alone to help his friend.
[HAPPY ENDING]
Few hours later till lunch, my brother came to me and told me what his classmates said about my fight. They said i defeated a 7th grader and made him cryed. They were so proud of me that they became my friends later on. I felt happy and shocked after i heard this. The bully did not tell the school about what i did to him because, he did not want many of his friends and other people to know that he was defeated by 6th grader. He never say sorry but he left me alone in peace.
Try sticking up to him. If things get worse tell the principal. Don't do anything that will get YOU in trouble. If he insults you once or not that often but it happens allot, you might want to tell the teacher but if he does it often or physically hurts you go straight to the principal.
Talk to your parents and ask them what they should do. But don't tell a teacher!! Why you ask? Because . . . only if you tell on them, they'll want to bully you even more and its because they've been bullied before and they think they have a right to act like that. Just ignore him the best you can and if he calls you a nerd, you simply say, "Why thank you for that compliment. You also look like a nerd but in the negative way." Then just walk away like nothing happened.
that never worked for me when i was in grade school. it did the exact opposite or didn't do anything.