I am interested in peoples experience in LGBT marriages/partnerships of being assigned Heteronormative roles. Especially in regards to parenting, for example have people ever asked you who is the mum/who is the dad or Who is the man in the relationship? Do you think that the media portrays gay couples in this way e.g makes one a more masculine character and the other more feminine. If you haven't experienced this, what is your opinion on the issue?
I think even in straight couples there's always the question -- who wears the pants in the relationship--Which is so mediaeval. I think that's just th way that we are,like opposites attract is the stereotype and people cannot think beyond masculinity vs femininity. I guess they think there has to be that contrast. It's less common with the lesbians because people just think theyre butch.
It is amazing how much ignorance there is on this subject. For starters, marriage is a natural condition. You don't need a license for it, and the government does not have the power to refuse permission. However, there is a three way corporation between two people and the state which is also called marriage, and that is what people are concerned about.
Second, speaking of the three way corporation now, it is not gay marriage; it is same sex marriage. Things equal to the same thing are equal to each other. The law grants privileges to a union of man and woman, such as the man being presumed to be the father of all the woman's babies. That makes for stable families and parental authority. If two people of the same sex are married and one makes a baby, what is the status of the other? Suddenly it is possible for a kid to have two, three, or four parents and there is no legal precedent to say who gets custody and who pays the bills in any situation.
Third, what is the definition of marriage? Traditionally the sex act is considered to be the defining moment, but there is no such distinctive ceremony between two of the same gender. There is precedent for cohabitation to define a marriage. Does that means room mates in college have to get a divorce at the end of every semester? Or that one room mate can be liable to support the other's babies? What about marriage between corporations?
The answer to most or all of these questions is "The courts will decide." That means some judge owns you, just because you thought you needed official permission. And there is no way to avoid it, once the legislation is passed.
I think that it doesn't really matter who that man is. or if anyone is considered the man of the house. If anything in my personal opinion it doesn't really matter who's who as long as the kid/kids are happy. You can call your parents anything I guess as long as there okay with it. It's also okay to decide who is who prior or come up with who is who. Say both the people in the relationship see themselves as a parent not either mom or dad they might still be referred to as mom and dad but there still theys not he's and shes.
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