After being friends with the same person for over 20 years, she is going in a different direction than I am and we don't hang out anymore. Being 47 now I find myself completely lonely with no friends, no direction, no energy to change. It's sad and depressing. I have no idea what to do about it. Anybody have similar situation?
Talk about putting all your eggs in one basket!
So for 20 years you had a friend, ONE friend that you counted on to be the basis for your entire life. It was her responsibility to keep you amused, busy, focused, active, and apparently your reason for functioning.
That's a heavy responsibility for one person to carry. What did you do for her since you required her to be responsible for your life? You didn't marry her it looks like, so what did you do in return? I'm guessing not enough or nothing.
You're on your own and its time to grow up. Look up Meet Up online. There are groups for nearly every interest someone can have. Join a couple groups and get active.
Take a class learn how to cook or do art or mall walk or something.
Join a gym and workout with a trainer.
Get into therapy and find out why you made one person responsible for your life and how to get functioning again.
Do volunteer work. Make friends with the other volunteer people you all have at least one similiar interest. Go to a local shelter and help them walk the dogs or socialize cats.
Get a bike and join a group who rides.
Be active. Invite people out for coffee. An hour at Starbucks should be manageable.