My boyfriend and I have been together for a year. He is the sweetest, kindest person I know. He will go out of his way to do things me, he helps me clean, he likes cooking, and we love playing games together. There was one night where we were drinking. We had a heated argument and I asked him to leave. He wouldn't so I told him then I will call the cops. He chased me down, got on top of me, and started punching me in the head and pulling my hair. He has done a few things like this before (maybe 2-3 other times). Well I called the police that night and he was arrested. He took an anger management course. For the past 4 months, we have had some heated arguments, but he hasn't put his hands on me after. Do you think he will hit me again? Do you think the management helped, or was it temporary?
Scenario 1: Isabel’s parents have come for a visit with her and her husband. They share an enjoyable evening with them, marked by pleasant conversation. Her parent beam with pride at the man their daughter married. He is so kind to her.
Scenario 2. After her parents leave her husband Frank is boiling with rage. Once again, he will take out his anger in typical fashion—which for him means hitting his wife in the face, kicking her, pulling her hair, or repeatedly knocking her head against the wall.
Like many perpetrators of domestic violence, Frank knows how to put on a “good-guy” pretense when he is in the public eye or with his wife’s parents. But when he is alone with his wife, Frank is terribly cruel. Sad to say there are women who are also like Frank cruel. It does not matter the gender.
These Scenarios are not only for married women. These behavior also includes emotional abuse. It does not matter how nice he is after abusing you then turns on the mister nice guy this is part of his rage. He is like a volcano that have small eruptions until the big one. A man who abuses women is mentally sick or learned behavior, a bully, or power seeker, a pretender split personality, deceiver or a coward he has power over the timid, those who are insecure, physically and emotionally broken. You may yourself have being abused or lived in an household where violence is tolerated. You need to stop this now and walk away you cannot fix him. If not you will become is punching bag or lose your life. I thought love was an emotional feeling and gratitude towards the man who says he loves me. I turned to the bible and with personal study with a student of the bible I found security in God's love. The bible describes love. Please read 1 Corinthians 13: 1-7.
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