I know that this is a me problem and the past is the past, but I am struggling with the matter. My girlfriend and I have been seeing each other for about 6 months. She just informed me that she has slept with 26 men. I know that this isn’t a ridiculous amount, but to me it is alot. She is 27 and I am 39, so maybe it is generational matter, but no matter what it is something that I am not dealing with well. Any thoughts?
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Did you both get tested for STDs and HIV and if not, why not and do it now.
Okay if clean bill of health is confirmed and you are both in a closed 1-1 relationship and you've had no reason to distrust her then you need to get over it.
What went on in both your lives prior to the day you both agreed to be a couple and not date anyone else is none of your business. You did not know each other and your private lives were just that. Neither of you should have opened your mouths and given up any information about who you did, how you did it or how many you did. That's all private and had nothing to do with the other. What you each do or who you do is absolutely your business, after you became a couple. Prior to that, not your business. So you need to let it go and forget about it or break up with her because this is not something you bring up and throw in her face when you have an argument. This is not something where you get to put your halo on because you had less than her or call her names because she had more.
I'm totally against flapping lips and spewing out private info. If you were getting along great before this unfortunate lapse in data gathering, then there is no reason you can't continue down that happy path.
Wishing you both a happy future.