We have been courting for over eight yrs (2 kids) and we have problems in this relationship. problems like cheating, coming home late and insulting me that since we got together there is nothing good that he has got in life accept bad luck. He even asked me why i don't leave his house and go away. the Problem is he loves going out and comes late but he doesn't want me to go out partying not even with him. if he allows me to go out with him he wants we go home early when am still having fun. He does not listen to my complaint me. He says that what he needs from me is respect but he does not respect me coz i have tried to tell him what hurts me he still does the same thing.
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So difficult to answer your question...
It was your choice already when you are together.
People may change too, as well he may change as you do so.
It's hurting but that's life.
Let him to do what he wants and do not try to hurt him also. One day, just go away for some days to have a vacation leave and stay far away from him, it may change his idea, maybe he will miss you again.
One idea is that when you are far from him, only that time that he remember that you exist, and that's all. not one or two days, more than, like 7 to 15 days.
If not, he may not interested in you anymore. Try to find the reason.
I take your account to heart. If this is courting, call me stupid if I say it's going well. Simply put, you're in an abusive relationship. If you're not in depression, you will be, and if he's not physically abusive, he will be. From your account I would assume he's not much of a father, and uses you as a sexual tool. He's an obsessive, controlling, introvert. As change seems doubtful, you must consider moving, or else live this way indefinitely. I'm sorry if I seem too abrupt, I just don't believe in men abusing women and children, it's just not how I've lived my male widowed life, military and civilian. Should you attempt to leave with your children, be absolutely sure you have an ironclad plan. A friend, a time, a place to safely stay, a family supporting job, and perhaps an immediate restraining order should he disagree. Perhaps this is not the advice you seek, but believe me I would support any decision you come to. All truly spoken. May the rest of your life become more pleasant. jj
As foe me, you better start your life with you two kids. Packed your things and move to a place far from him. First of all seek the guidance of our Almighty God, He is the one who will take good care to your family. Love yourself, you better start loving your self if don't who will love it? then love your children, make for a living try to look for a job for your children to live. Never thinks of him anymore and learn how to live by your self with your children of course.
That's the time your boyfriend will think that ahhh, she can live by her self...that he will think of he's mistake in life.
No matter what just think of the life of your children if you love them and if you love your self live .