My parents are trating my siblings over me and every time I talk to them about it they say that thay love us all equally, but after a while they go back to the special treatment and I feel left out, and becouse of that some times I cant open up to other people and cant make alot of friends at school (but I do have friends that were with me for 2 years) and at home my siblings tell me to be quite when I want to say something and that's one of the reasons why I can't make a lot of friends.
Please can anyone help me out.
What to do if you feel that you're parents, prefer you siblings more than you?
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My parents are treating me like I'm their enemy or something my mom is calling me grandma and my dad keeps on yelling at me and my sisters are bullying me what should I do?
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ok at first when you said that your parents are giving your siblings special treatment it sounded like your the older sibling but if that is true than your younger siblings are needing guidance just like you did when you were younger so there probably trying to guide them into a good place. but then you said your siblings tell you to be quite so that makes it sound like your younger or the youngest depending on the age of your siblings and yourself then that makes a difference on how your parents are going to treat you, I think that if your siblings are in there teens then your parents might be treating them more because there trying to get them to do the right thing and get them ready for collage or something. If your the middle aged sibling in your family then your parents just probably think of you as mature to were you can be responsible but younger kids need to be shown whats good and whats bad and teens need to be shown how to survive in the world by there selfs and if your in the middle (take it from me) your not young enough to be taught what good or bad and not ols enough to survive on your own.... but that is depending on everyone's age so I don't really have much to go of of.... if you say your age and your siblings ages then I might be able to give better advice.. Hope I helped anyway!!!!
"Cute"? "Funny"? That is so rude. She is having serious problems, and you're anying it's just a joke. Smarten up.
I agree don't be rude like that I don't like having by brother being treated over me. And you would not like it if it happened to you. So don't answer the question if you are going to be like that!
This seems to be a rather difficult situation. :/
I have no answer I can think of as an immediate "solution".
One thing I would try to keep in mind is that your parents probably don't *want* to treat their children unfairly... -- and that they're not perfect. I would suggest trying to reach out to a school counselor, since you say you feel like it's interfering with your ability to make friends.
Good luck!! :)
That is a good one to a school counselor is better then my solution do that not mine perfect answer.
Actually, the case is the same with most parents. They do not see it as anything but you should still know that whatever the case is, they still love you. About the case of your sisters, i will rather ignore them or tell them that the love of your parents is on all of you not only them. Tell them that you are a part of the family in a polite way. As far as that it is still the same parent that gave birth to them that gave birth to you, there is absolutely no way that your parents can ever hate you. Just try as much as you can to please you and please do not revenge when it turns the other way around. Someday, somehow their attention will turn back to you. It is just a matter of time. Give them time. It might be becase they are stressed out but it can never be because they don't love you. I also had the same problem but all i can say is that it didn't last long. Your sisters can not make you to be left out if you are bold. About friends, nothing apart from being nice and social can make you earn friends. If your case is more than this, you can send another email clearifying the case of friendship, so i can help in any way.
Hope this at least helped to show that they still love you and you are a part of that family.
Okay, before I answer, let my OCD mind correct your grammar: you're means "you are". Your means that something is yours. In this sentence, there is no need for a comma. And 'what to do' should be replaced by 'what do you do'. 'More than you' should be 'over you' maximum effect. Correct sentence:
'What do you do if you feel that your parents prefer your sliblings over you?'
Okay, now time to answer the question. I FEEL THE EXACT SAME WAY. I have an identical twin sister, and I always think about how much more mom must love her than me. Talk to someone, like a friend, about it.
I feel the same way. I am the middle child and i'm very shy and young so I always say goodnight to my mom. I always get upset when she says goodnight to everyone else but me. My mom has been getting really mad lately because my dad is in the military and he is gone right now. You parent could be stressed like my mom or if you are the middle child I know how it goes Oldest gets responsibility and youngest gets attention and the middle child gets nothing.
I hoped this helped you a little bit :D
Personally and not professionally, i can say we all feel that way if we have other siblings at some time in our lives. As a parent I can honestly say we love our kids for who they are. We are all different in many ways, every kid needs to be reprimanded according to their character. As parents we are also learning every day on how to bring up kids the best way possible. We only want the best for our kids all the time. Our everyday lives are usually so busy we forget that we might neglect one child more than the other. I'd say just be proud of who you are and we all feel rejected along our lives at some point..which is a good thing. We learn how to deal with a lot more that comes our way in our future.
Before you speak just listen to other people. Before you write just thing what towrite. before dieing live a pretty life that you you want to live and you love it because you have to decides how you have to live. think +ve , be on good way and every thing with you will go perfect. and you would be loved from everyone in this entire world.
That was a good explanation couldn't have explained better than that