Hiya,

I've been with my girlfriend for a year now, this is the first lesbian relationship either of us have been in.

My problem is that I have never had an orgasm during sex with her (or anyone else for that matter!). I can bring myself to orgasm through masterbation quite easily and I have no problems bringing her to orgasm. We're quite playful when it comes to sex & often try out new things.

She certainly turns me on but I think my problem is that I'm too focused on pleasing her and making sure that she enjoys it. In my head I am constantly paying attention to how she reacts to what I'm doing and I can't just switch off & enjoy the moment. I've tried fantasising but I just lose my train of thought.

Any advice on how I can switch my brain off!?! :)