I feel like I'm mean. For instance, I make sassy remarks alot and sometimes come across as a jerk who doesn't care about her friends. I try to act tough, but people just think I'm mean. Secondly, I'm too hyper. I laugh at everything, and sometimes I hurt people without meaning to. I don't want to be this way! Please help me!!
Think more about what your going to say before you say it. Put yourself in the persons shoes and think about how they would feel about you sayung that. I have the same problem with hyperness. Just keep calm and have a laugh attack in your head. I have to bite my lip to stop myself from smiling or laughing.
This may be long but I know how you feel and how it is. Look in the mirror for a good long minute and remember what your face looks like in every detail. Turn away and picture yourself talking and what you look like. Look at this picture as if you were not you and think of what your reaction of what the picture says which is what you would say. To take a shortcut, think of every way your friend could take the remark whether it be sad, mad, jealous, or even funny and consider it. If you goof up, just tell them how u meant it to be.
Acting tough is not wrong, but it depends on how you use it. To be a leader is to take criticism and brush it off. Stand up for your friends not to them and protect them from harmful words. Show them others are wrong to criticize with the facts your friends have.
To show people they can't push you around can be hard though. This takes a lot of willpower. Be proud of who you are. This sounds cheesy i know, but It works. The people who shoot you down don't have confidence in themselves so to build themselves up, they put others down to make their friends think more of them. Keep your head up and your posture straight. This will show them you don't care what they think.
There's nothing wrong with being hyper. As long as your friends know you are just trying to lighten up the mood. Make goofy voices when you crack a joke to let them know you are just playing around. If they get mad or sad, tone it down and have compassion. Give off the feeling of sadness to share with them. Yes, I know this may seem like a weakness to toughness but it actually does the exact opposite because your friends see that they can come to you when they have problems.
I am sorry this was long but it is worth reading, not skimming. hahaha
Ive always asked myself the same question but have never found ojt the answer myself, but now i really think this could be the best;
I would say to be a nicer person means you need the right intensions,
yes its hard at first but dont worry youll get the hang of it.
thinking of bad thing will impurify your heart wich sends neves to your brain,
Makkng you feel uncomfortable.
I would suggest that you spend some time with people you find
Soft hearted and kind
And the number one point if you want to say somethkng bad dont say it
hope this helped
chill. dont get too attached, but try and be with your friends--your nice friends at most points. having friends that are somewhat disrespectful, mean, that bully people can influence you to become like them... stick with the good crowd, try and find a friend who is nice, sweet, and all.
There is a rhythm that goes "what so ever you do to least of my brother that you do unto me" so look into yourself and know where you are going wrong, then overlook some certain thing, don't take everything you see or hear so serious and let go.. Open your heart to everyone(the good one) and let evil make away from your life. Always put smiles on your face and love everyone no matter what.