In my past relationship I struggled showing I loved my boyfriend. I truly did and he did too. He showed it all the time and in my eyes then I thought it was too much and too clingy. Now looking back on that, he was just being a normal boyfriend. Now every time I like someone and I find out they like me back I get nervous and end up losing interest fairly quickly. This is upsetting and stops me from wanting to peruse relationships. I believe I have relationship anxiety but how do I stop it?
Both the Bible and modern research encourage us to show affection to one another. because satisfying this need brings physical and emotional benefits..
Some parents are prone to instill fear in their children and others around them.. They may demand implicit obedience and the greatest respect, while failing to show loving concern as family heads and this affect their children throughout adulthood.
I understand your feelings because I have the problem in accepting affection. I cannot remembered being hugged as a child. I grew up feeling rejected believing that if someone gave me too much affection it was not genuine so I feel uncomfortable. However in order to cope with not being isolated and depressed I like to hug people I am familiar with. This gives me a sense of acceptance even if it is only brief.
I realize that in order to be happy and not alienate others I have to make the effort and show affection. This can be frightening at times but I realized in order to strive for happiness I have to be aware of this negative trait and show affection even if it is rejected. I am associated with people who learn about genuine affection and the reason to give affection by following God's view. The bible have helped me and it can help you too.
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For our affection to do the most good, we need to express it. (Proverbs 27:5) When our affection is real, our face likely shows it, and it may move the heart of others to respond. “The brightness of the eyes makes the heart rejoice,” wrote the wise man. (Proverbs 15:30) Thoughtful acts also promote tender affection. Although no one can buy true affection, a gift given from the heart can be very meaningful. A card, a letter, and “a word spoken at the right time”—all of these can express deep affection. (Proverbs 25:11; 27:9) Once we have gained the friendship of others, we must maintain it by continuing to show unselfish affection. Especially in times of need, we will want to be there for our friends. The Bible says: “A true companion is loving all the time, and is a brother that is born for when there is distress.”—Proverbs 17:17.
You might also like to read the following article on the website below.
wol.jw.org/g 12/09 The Importance of Showing Affection