so i made a new friend at school his name's cody , the other day i asked his age and he said he was 19 witch surpized me. so today i told him that i liked him and he said he like me back. i have feelings for this guy but i'm not sure about his age . keep in mind he's a good guy and never get's in trouble. i'm not sure weather or not to react on these feeling ?
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Feelings are great but at your age the age difference is too great. You have nothing in common. There are so many thing you will not be able to do together and he could get into soooooo much trouble acting on any feelings (if they exist) as you are a minor and he is an adult. Therefore NOTHING would be consensual.
Sorry BUT that is a "pen pal"....
pen pal is writing to each other about things in life. you dont say 'i love you' 'i wish we could meet up' making plans to be together and maybe live together.
if you say so :0)
im 14, and im dating an 18 year old who lives in England (i live in australia). We really love each other and stuff. If you two really like each other go for it. Age is just a number, and if you really like each other, age shouldnt bother you. All age determines is maturity, so it doesnt effect much on things.
..and US law which could land him in jail for statutory rape ......this is a hands off situation.
rape is when one person is forced to do something they do not want to. For goodness sakes, i know someone who got MARRIED to someone 15 years older then them!!!! legally married.
I understand where you're coming from as i am 14 myself and i like someone roughly 3 years older than me BUT you have got to realize that no matter what you are a minor and he is an adult. It is illegal for him to even go out with you and as it was pointed out as he is an adult, being with you would be seen as statutory rape and grooming and he could face legal consequences. Now as you've said rape means that you have been forced to do something against your will but in the eyes of the law you have to be at least 16 to give consent. So even if you gave consent that would be overlooked and seen as either rape, grooming and most likely both. You should be careful and think this through properly.
you are right bout leaving him if he hurts her, but im not sure if you know enough about him to know that he is a loser trying to screw her -_-''
I ment it only if he is in the relationship for kissing or sex. Not just period. I mean Im sure hes a good guy. I'm 14 too. The only reason Im bringing it up is because Ive been in that situation.
Aye, painful but true
the biggest problem with this situation is your age. the other problem is that you're dating him over internet. you'd have better luck with someone you can actually be with. like a friend from school. acting older than you are doesn't make a difference you're still underage.
she isnt dating him over the internet....
so i'm wrong about the dating part. not about the rest.
i met him at school , not over the internet.
sorry, i got confused with a comment that "nekoneko" posted. your age can still be a problem. if his intentions are noble. i think it would be better to wait until you're at least eighteen before you get too serious. you can still be friends though.
kay , thanks
To be honest im dating a guy thats older than me (with a greater age differnce) and we have been dating for over a year now and its wonderful, yet I dont see anything about you mentioning how he is what he does for you ect. So it doesnt mean you should start to date because he says he liked you too... even if online...
Now dont get me wrong I do believe that no age gap is too great (of course I mean with people who do know what love is and actually love eachother for who they are not just date or not even know them...really in how mature the two people take it) but you have to know they guy before you do anything alright? Please get a chance to get to know the guy for at least What makes you begin to feel comfortable with him.. and I mean comfortable as in both of you care for one another going through good times and bad. Plus if you tell him to wait a certain time and he does itll show you that he truly does like you...(probably if that time if way more than just a day or two preferably a few months)
Its just.... dating guys older than you like that is complicated. Especially if your 14 and hes almost an adult. Dating guys lile that and not expecting to go on into bigger things is well... pointless. If you dont want to actually be with him until the rest of your days... dont bother. Or else youll regret it.
Another note:
he may be a crush
And just becuase you like him dosent mean to date him
Date someone you love not like
Love as in youd so so much as to almost cry if he wasnt in your life
If not please oh please dont bother
All crushes are usually arfifical so unless you wanna tell your kids how you feel in love with an older guy and he hurt you bad ... dont
EVERYBODY who is too young and knows it ALWAYS say they are more mature as if that makes it alright. It may not be all right per the law. He is a legal adult. Why is there a 19 year old still in high school? That's not normal so what did he do that kept him back? Dont ask us, ask your parents they are the ones who set the rules.
im 14 and im dating a 18 year old who lives in another country so its not that bad