I really wanted to ask this question because I feel selfish and annoying for thinking like this. I have many best friends who I know are very supportive, but sometimes, I feel distant or invisible to them. I’ve always been the quiet one in the group, so it’s very common to be ignored or talked over. Sometimes I feel left out when most of my friends hang out without saying a word to me, and I have to find out on social media. I could also see that each of my friends are getting attached to their own one good friend that tell everything to and not to everyone else. I don’t have one close friend I could talk about my deep info to. I know my friends are good people, and I wouldn’t want to ruin friendships by confronting them with my feelings. I also know for sure that my state of mind is not very good either. So I ask on here: is it possible to feel lonely with many friends?
Is it possible to feel lonely even though you’re surrounded by friends?
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- 3+ months ago by ImmaDolphin
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Answers (3)
Yes absolutely. And it's also possible to be alone but not feel lonely. Try some Vit B supplements, that is a good stress reliever and might help make you feel better. You should also eat well, lot's of good quality food and do some exercise. It will be good for your mood. :-)
In my experience, a group will keep you occupied / entertained yet won't outlast the frame keeping it together (eg school), as an introvert - an active role is what keeps it alive at that point.
Look outside your roster of acquaintances - can you spot someone who keeps to themselves, mayhap an outcast? Approach them. Take mild interest in their occupation, without getting creepy. Seek potential shared interests. Walk or sit with them when the opportunity arises.
I cannot guarantee this will ameliorate the solitude. Nevertheless, it will make you see things differently, and you're aware that's necessary.
LONELINESS is not the same as solitude. Rather, according to one dictionary, loneliness “more often suggests isolation accompanied by a longing for company.”
You said you are quiet and feel your friends make you feel invisible, talked over or ignore your presence. It does not matter how quiet your are, you are in a group and you have to reach out to them and make yourself visible. Bible principle at Proverbs 18:1. You do not have to agree with everything they discuss but give some input in the conversation. Why not bake some goodies, or invite one or two of them to a meal. If these friends accept you in their group it is obvious they want you there, but they want to know who you are on the inside. Share experiences or basic things about you. You may find there is some who may have the same interest so you can bond together. You mentioned the word "friends" If you are not bonding with them then you have associates not friends. Take a step forward even if you are rejected do not shrink away keep trying. If this does not work find new friends. You do not need many people to be your friend try looking for a friend. I was a quite person myself because of emotional abuse. I realized if I ignore negative thinking and reach out my quietness goes away. I love to hug because it makes me happy and even if others do not accept it I do not take it personally. Come out from under that cloud and fix the problem. You are the only one who can help because it requires effort on your part.
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