... met but has returned to a respectable career. When we were dating there was tons of fun, playing and great sex. Now that we're married with kids all she does is NAG. The sex is infrequent and when we do have sex she wants it over in 10 minutes. Yes, she's actually told me that. She won't shave down below anymore... except on Monday morning before she leaves for work. She has always had a very flexible work schedule and would come home early. But the past 2 months she's been leaving for work early, staying LATE, and she just wants to "be left alone for a while" when she comes home. She's started buying and wearing sexy underwear, something she never cared about before. So... was I just an idiot for marrying a stripper to begin with? Is she cheating or am I paranoid?
Is she cheating or am I paranoid? I am married to an ex-stripper. She was still stripping when we?
- 3+ months ago by tluc71
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Added 3+ months ago:
I almost forgot to mention... She has this thing with her things. She had boxes full of stuff in our spare room that she would never let me touch. She would get irate, IRATE, if I even thought about going through them. Well, one day I just got sick of it and went through them. I found old photos of her naked with ex-boyfriends, old love letters, photos of her on vacation with her ex's... a LOT of them. Was this why she didn't want me to go through those boxes? Was she holding on to memories? I think she had a "back-up plan". Another thing is that she deletes her text messages and phone log on her mobile phone EVERY SINGLE DAY before she comes home.
I gotta tell ya... if one of my friends told me this story and asked me what I think; I would laugh my ass off and tell him to leave her. It's just hard to see the forest through the tree's.
I think you two need to sit down and talk about this and get your fear out on the table and find out what is going on with her but the important thing here is do you love her and do yo u trust her but it sounds like you both need to be open with one another .
she may not want to shave down there as much but maybe she doesn't see a reason to if to shave as often any more because you do have kids and she is happy and content maybe you need to go buy some flowers for her and ask her why she is staying at work late maybe she got asked to stay late and finish some work up who knows until you ask her . and as far as her shaving maybe you need to offer to shave her some time
Okay well I cheated in my last relationship, I was with this guy for 2 yrs and was cheating on him the last 4 months of our relationship, not proud of it but, I would say I have a little bit of expierience in this category. It does kind of sound like she could be cheating. I know with my ex bf, when I was with him in the beginning, I would shave all the time, then once I got more comfortable with him I got a little lazy with shaving. Then when I met this other guy that I was cheating on him with, I made sure I was shaved. Also, Me and my ex were sleeping together alot, but it slowed down alot as time went on, but we were still having sex here and there. Then when I met the other guy, I never really wanted to have sex with my bf, and when we did, I also wanted it to be a "quicky" because I just wasn't that into it, and sometimes I would be sore. And kind of the same situation with the underwear, I used to not really care, but when I met this other guy, I wanted to be sure I had on something sexy underneath.
But this doesn't necessarily mean she is cheating. Maybe it's just easier for her to shave on Mondays, if you shave too frequently you can get razor bumps. And maybe she wants to be left alone after work because she had a long day and just wants to relax. And maybe she bought sexy underwear because she was bored of her old ones. Idk but there are other explanations.
You should really just talk to her and point out your concerns. It could be a really simple explanation. And after you talk to her about everything, and the suspicions still continue, she most likely is cheating.
she is cheating on you first of you shouldnt never married a stripper that is her job to show other guys her goods and she probably think you was down with it and for her to be a stripper and just want sex from her husband for 10 minutes something is wrong with that and the box full of memories ask her whats up with that also ask her why she all of a sudden wants to be all sexy but then again dont really want to have a sex life with you but on my behave leave she's probably no good to of began with.............................
Hate to say it with you having children, but I'd confront her about it, unless that would almost definitely cause a break up. You don't want to do that to children.
That was an unbiased view from a student in the late teens who never met his father.
Also, sorry, but yes to the last-but-one question too.